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On 10 May 2003, 01:31 +00:00, drksparkle said:

BUILD a comp for 500? HAH! Dell sells them for even less than that... ever watched their commercials?? they start around 350 after rebate..

Well, would it help that I saw an article recently about building a $500 computer for basic web browsing, e-mail, etc.? If you still have some parts from your "busted" computer, you can reuse them to cut costs even further.

http://www.extremetech.com/article2/0,1558,1586081,00.asp

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I'm surprised that the pastor at my church took issue with me not dating anyone... but since I'm better off not having kids.. (and since in vitro was invented.) I just see the whole sex thing has become something HORRID... its become OBSOLETE!

Actually, I've heard somewhere... (so vague, sorry) that asexuality is actually ideal. It doesn't really make sense to me, since we DO need to reproduce... but I guess the whole hype from the Church about sex being bad created this idea... but the best is to not have sexual desire but its OK to be in a marriage and play that out with one person, instead of just sleeping around... I personally don't think its good or bad. How can it be evil? It may be good in some ways, too- ever yone can be sure we won't rape people or anything. But, as I said, we need to reproduce, if we actually want to continue this human race... why, not sure... bwaahahaha. Um, yes, thats what I have to say... but yes, I am religious, I believe in God and Jesus, Christianity, mostly... not so sure about the "devil" though but thats a completely separate topic...

Would be nice except that I have $5, some change under my sofa cushions, a crappy part-time job and about $8000 in debt.

Thanks anyway, though.

Well, would it help that I saw an article recently about building a $500 computer for basic web browsing, e-mail, etc.? If you still have some parts from your "busted" computer, you can reuse them to cut costs even further.

http://www.extremetech.com/article2/0,1558,1586081,00.asp

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Therese Shellabarger / The Roving Reporter - Civis Mundi tlshell@c... / http://tlshell.cnc.net/

The group sure is robust. I wish you the best with whatever computer you're using. I haven't been around since spring break, but from what I've read, this group is doing extremely well. Lots of asexuals out there.

Hey folks,

I want to apologize for the delay in many, many posts. As you folks know, I moderate posts to avoid flaming and spam. Unfortunately, my home computer broke about two months ago, and I haven't been able to do much with the group since. My only internet access is at work, and for obvious reasons I'm not comfortable with moderating this club with my co-workers sitting right next to me and breathing down my neck...never mind the fact that I'm usually too busy at work for this sort of thing.

Just a heads up...I'm not buying a new computer for a LOOOOONG time, but I'll do what I can.

Apologies,

drksparkle

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Yes the distance would be a problem. I never see my ex but my daughter has to. I respect your loyalty to your folks. I hope things are going well for you.

Laura, I am in complete agreement with you but I must say since you said you could not move from New York due to your daughter that would count me out.  If we were a match and of course I have no idea if this would be true; I cannot move from California due to my folks.

Also, if you cannot move from New York due to your daughter, it sounds like you are restrained to NY due to an Ex spouse.  Is this true?

Jen

I see no reason why a male and female asexual can't fall in love and marry. They just don't have sex and that is their own business. If they want children they can either adopt or the woman can be artifically inseminated with the mans sperm. Once you have a child to love does it really matter how he or she got to you?   I would be very interested in finding someone to pairbond with. I take it that means a male female relationship that is more thna friendship but does not involve sex. I will post another message about that so this one is not too long. I totally understand the desire to have a special someone and to raise a family and still not have a sexual relationship.

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Yes I am asexual. I never had any desire for sex but did not really understand it. I wanted to have a husband and children. Now all I want is companionship. I enjoy good conversation and just having fun with no sex. To be honest sometimes I feel like a fifth wheel when I'm with a group of people and they all have dates or spouses and I'm alone. I am hoping to meet a man in my age group who is content never to have sex and if we are compatible in other ways we can become friends. Sorry if I wasn't clear before.

            Laura,             the impression I get is that you are saying you are not Asexual. Is this correct or am I misunderstanding you?

            Jen               

      I am 49 and would like to correspond with someone in my age group.       Late 40's is fine too. I would like to find someone to "pairbond"       with and also to find some people in my age group who understands how       I feel. We may also have other similar experiences that have nothing       to do with the lack of desire for sex. I live in upstate NY and I       cannot move because of my daughter. I am looking for on line       friendships as well as a flesh and blood person to spend time with.     

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If a few asexual people show up, we can schedule an evening discussion on the topic of asexuality.

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I've been in the group for a while now, though I've been quiet for a while, trying to analyze myself in light of this community. I've decided "what I am" with regards to asexuality, so now I'm just wondering whether or not anyone else thinks exactly this way as well (I'm not so sure). I do consider myself straight and male, I should say first of all. I can't really say that I'm truly asexual, I think - and I know I'm not anti-sexual. I'm not celibate, either, as that just seems to me to mean some kind of vow or active decision toward abstinence. I think I'm just someone who would feel fine (maybe even good) to hear that "sex isn't necessary in combination with love (and maybe intimacy), and can be compeltely avoided, in a happy relationship". I'd like to know that my potential partner would not consider the lack of sex as a reason to end a relationship. She wouldn't have to hate sex, or not understand it, just, hmm, not need it to be happy and be content to edit it out? The result is, I suppose, that I would end up in a relationship that might resemble an asexual or celibate one. But I'm not sure that it actually is one. Ok so if anyone actually cared read this whole ramble and feels the same way, feel free to respond. ;)

seem the last post was almost 2 months ago.. is the group dead?

i feel the same way. society keeps on putting up images of sex being the main part of a relatioship, and when you actually stop to think about what they are promoting. you realize that this is not the main part of a succesuful relationship. i think thats why so many marriages in america end in divorce.

nikki

I've been in the group for a while now, though I've been quiet for a while, trying to analyze myself in light of this community. I've decided "what I am" with regards to asexuality, so now I'm just wondering whether or not anyone else thinks exactly this way as well (I'm not so sure). I do consider myself straight and male, I should say first of all. I can't really say that I'm truly asexual, I think - and I know I'm not anti-sexual. I'm not celibate, either, as that just seems to me to mean some kind of vow or active decision toward abstinence. I think I'm just someone who would feel fine (maybe even good) to hear that "sex isn't necessary in combination with love (and maybe intimacy), and can be compeltely avoided, in a happy relationship". I'd like to know that my potential partner would not consider the lack of sex as a reason to end a relationship. She wouldn't have to hate sex, or not understand it, just, hmm, not need it to be happy and be content to edit it out? The result is, I suppose, that I would end up in a relationship that might resemble an asexual or celibate one. But I'm not sure that it actually is one. Ok so if anyone actually cared read this whole ramble and feels the same way, feel free to respond. ;)

seem the last post was almost 2 months ago.. is the group dead?

Something about the past discussions has driven off a number of members; I don't remember what it was since it was so long ago but I seem to recall that things got rather heated.

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Many folks from Australia here?

Craig

seem the last post was almost 2 months ago.. is the group dead?

Something about the past discussions has driven off a number of members; I don't remember what it was since it was so long ago but I seem to recall that things got rather heated.

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On 18 Aug 2003, 23:47 +00:00, Master Eiji said:

seem the last post was almost 2 months ago.. is the group dead?

Something about the past discussions has driven off a number of members; I don't remember what it was since it was so long ago but I seem to recall that things got rather heated.

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I've just joined, I've just joined! And, posted. Not a blisteringly incisive introduction I'm afraid though. Jenny, 36, lives in SW UK. Hiyas :)

Whatever it was that drove members away, I look forward to reading what others think now. :thinks: must get round to going over the archive of past messages...

Blessings, SM (aka Jenny)

Hi, I'm looking for female companionship. If she were willing, I'd love to start a family and use artificial insemination. I'm 38 but I'm looking for someone in their early thirties most likely. I'm pretty nice and have a good job. My interests include strategy games, nerdish things generally, music (piano), travel, movies, news, etc. I'm agnostic and moderate. I'm looking for someone who is very nice and has a high iq and has some similarity of interests. Ideally, she wants a family, but I could also see marrying the right person if that were not possible. Let's see-no smoking or drug use, etc. Thanks for reading. My email address is dastraube@...

Steven,

You have perhaps written exactly how I feel about my sexual status. I think a great gal to find would be one who didn't have sex on her mind 24/7 but could consider having sex at all an afterthought. Thanks for posting.

Johnny

hi there

new member here-trying to catch up on all the posts and messages....this seems like such a find-to know you are not alone in outlook,feelings etc. am a little concerned at the last couple of messages saying the group has gone really quiet though,would be a shame to see all the previous groundwork going to waste,so this 43 yr old male in the uk is hoping to get some discussion going again,and with no polls option available on the group,will have to use this forum....and wants to know how many of the group members are actively looking for a partner to share their day to day life with....i would dearly love to find a 'life-partner' for companionship.friendship etc,but obviously that conforms to the asexual lifestyle. what do you all think-and hope for in life?

hope to get some conversation going again ,so.......

ry.

Many folks from Australia here?

Craig Yeah, one person from Sydney here.

Matt

Hey, Another new member here. Friendship is nice, but I'm not "looking". You don't find friends by looking for them. You just go through your life and sometimes they turn up and sometimes they don't. That's been my experience, anyway.

hi there

new member here-trying to catch up on all the posts and messages....this seems like such a find-to know you are not alone in outlook,feelings etc. am a little concerned at the last couple of messages saying the group has gone really quiet though,would be a shame to see all the previous groundwork going to waste,so this 43 yr old male in the uk is hoping to get some discussion going again,and with no polls option available on the group,will have to use this forum....and wants to know how many of the group members are actively looking for a partner to share their day to day life with....i would dearly love to find a 'life-partner' for companionship.friendship etc,but obviously that conforms to the asexual lifestyle. what do you all think-and hope for in life?

hope to get some conversation going again ,so.......

ry.

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Hi, I'm looking for female companionship. If she were willing, I'd love to start a family and use artificial insemination.  I'm 38 but I'm looking for someone in their early thirties most likely.  I'm pretty nice and have a good job.  My interests include strategy games, nerdish things generally, music (piano), travel, movies, news, etc.  I'm agnostic and moderate.  I'm looking for someone who is very nice and has a high iq and has some similarity of interests.  Ideally, she wants a family, but I could also see marrying the right person if that were not possible.  Let's see-no smoking or drug use, etc. Thanks for reading. My email address is dastraube@...

Hi, We have a lot in common. However I am much older than you. I'm looking for someone closer to my age. (almost 50) I hope we both find what we are looking for. I'm not necessarily looking for a husband though I am not ruling that out.

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what is this ?

dont send me anything like this, ok.

well, I don't know 100% yet if I am asexual, but something doesn't work in RL as it works with other ppl I guess :| i might write some more, just wanted you to know there's another member amongst you

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Greets ry, To answer your questions;

....and wants to know how many of the group members are actively looking for a partner to share their day to day life with....

I'm not interested in a relationship. Tried that, found it wanting. I have my friends, and the cats, that's good enough for me.

what do you all think-and hope for in life?

Hope for in life? That maybe one day people will stop hating each other, and stop relying on a binary dualism to live their lives to. Let go of the us-them illusion, and start seeing each other as part of the same universe, instead of enemies and elements to control. Until then, I'll settle for a successful hunting with hounds ban, an end to fast food advertising targetting children, and a ban on smoking in all public places!

Blessings, SM (aka Jenny)

Hello all!

I am a member of AVEN and currently thinking about organising a BIG meetup / convention for asexuals somewhere in Britain in 2005. This would be both a social event and a chance for us to get together to discuss ideas for raising awareness of asexuality in Britain.

If you think you might be interested in getting involved then please visit this thread at AVEN:

http://asexuality.org/discussion/viewtopic.php?t=4320

Cheers!

kodgetts (known as Liver at AVEN)

I just finished reading an article on the CNN website titled, "Study: One in 100 adults asexual," and thought, FINALLY! Recognition at last. And it only took 56 years! From there I went to Google and eventually wound up finding this group. I probably should have read through more of the messages, but I was so thrilled to simply find a group that recognized asexuality as a very real ... and I believe a very valid ... alternative lifestyle, I thought I'd jump in to say, "hi, to all." I am really looking forward to discussion in this group.

For now I'm off to look through the messages.

Mo

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Hello, I'm new! I'm an asexual woman (if you can call 19 a woman XP) from the UK and I've only just come to realise it myself. This place is awfully quiet :o

I see by the list, that there has been twelve new members this week, myself included. I'm sure the recent article at CNN had something to do with that. At any rate, on with the introductions. I'm a 47 yr old female living in the USA. I'm not looking for anything perse, just happy to finally find a place for others like me out there in the world. And wondering why this board hasn't had any postings since the middle of Sept.

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