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Hey everyone, Just joined your group, and wanted to introduce myself. I am most likely older than the average here, but asexuals come in all shapes, ages, and colors....isn't it great??? hahahah

Hope to find some "oldsters" here to communicate with along with the youngsters. I'm not age bias, I tend to love people in general....diversity is essential to round a person out I think.

I'm a 57 (on Valentine's Day) woman who has lived her life trying to be normal (by society's standards) by buying the goods that a relationship between men and women has to include sex to be "real" and meaningful. After countless exhausting relationships and two failed marriages, I found out, to my relief, that I'm neither defective, nor am I a freak. The blessing in my marriage to my first husband was the three beautiful, and amazing human beings that are my children, and the five grandchildren that are part of my circle of life. Guess perhaps they were the reason for enduring the heartache of being married and feeling broken all the time.

Last year, I read about the asexual commuinty and upon further research, found that there were others just like me (a large number actually) who had lived their lives feeling like they had something wrong with them as they loved the companionship in their lives, just couldn't relate to the sexual part of the same.

I've been a single lady for nearly 15 years now, and while I, like several others here have mentioned, enjoy a very full life, I do regret not having that wonderful someone to share the experiences with. I get asked out alot (I'm still pretty cute for an old broad), but once the man finds out that I'm not into sex, well....you know the rest of the story. So sad that sex=love in this world....especially when you are asexual. I am very much a romantic, but was always a fan of unrequited love where the two people could never consumate the relationship with sexual activity....(gee, I wonder why????...hahaha). Now I know.

Would love to hear from anyone who wants to reply. We need each other in a hundred different ways. Oh yeah, I live in Texas...guess that would be a good thing to mention.

Happy Friday everyone!!!

J

I don't think there is. The photo section for the group does not have an option listed to add a photo that I saw. Brenda Roberts

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hey is there a photo gallery for the members who want to meet others?

I am in California and an oldster LOL I also was born on valentines day and will be 54 on the 14th. My life is almost a mirror to yours with marriages and relationships but I was never blessed with children or grandchildren. Welcome to the group. Brenda

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Hi and welcome to the group. I don't post often but I am always reading. I am also a female and age 33 and always thought I was a freak, too in that bad way. I have had guys tell me I am abnormal, etc. same as everyone else here. I was married twice and while I loved both of them, the years I have been single since have been in alot of ways better b/c I no longer am doing anything I don't want to/no more 'duties', lol.... Anyway, welcome and saying hi to everyone as I don't post often.....

Hey everyone, Just joined your group, and wanted to introduce myself. I am most likely older than the average here, but asexuals come in all shapes, ages, and colors....isn't it great??? hahahah

Hope to find some "oldsters" here to communicate with along with the youngsters. I'm not age bias, I tend to love people in general....diversity is essential to round a person out I think.

I'm a 57 (on Valentine's Day) woman who has lived her life trying to be normal (by society's standards) by buying the goods that a relationship between men and women has to include sex to be "real" and meaningful. After countless exhausting relationships and two failed marriages, I found out, to my relief, that I'm neither defective, nor am I a freak. The blessing in my marriage to my first husband was the three beautiful, and amazing human beings that are my children, and the five grandchildren that are part of my circle of life. Guess perhaps they were the reason for enduring the heartache of being married and feeling broken all the time.

Last year, I read about the asexual commuinty and upon further research, found that there were others just like me (a large number actually) who had lived their lives feeling like they had something wrong with them as they loved the companionship in their lives, just couldn't relate to the sexual part of the same.

I've been a single lady for nearly 15 years now, and while I, like several others here have mentioned, enjoy a very full life, I do regret not having that wonderful someone to share the experiences with. I get asked out alot (I'm still pretty cute for an old broad), but once the man finds out that I'm not into sex, well....you know the rest of the story. So sad that sex=love in this world....especially when you are asexual. I am very much a romantic, but was always a fan of unrequited love where the two people could never consumate the relationship with sexual activity....(gee, I wonder why????...hahaha). Now I know.

Would love to hear from anyone who wants to reply. We need each other in a hundred different ways. Oh yeah, I live in Texas...guess that would be a good thing to mention.

Happy Friday everyone!!!

J

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I am in California and an oldster LOL I also was born on valentines day and will be 54 on the 14th. My life is almost a mirror to yours with marriages and relationships but I was never blessed with children or grandchildren. Welcome to the group. Brenda

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Yeah...I'm new too, or at least I've been semi-lurking forever. From Northern Cali, nearly 30. I've pretty much given up on relationships because of the whole sexual aspect. Hell, I've pretty much given up on forming any sort of friendship with anyone that's sexually oriented towards females because I hate it when what could have been (or was) a beautiful friendship gets torn to pieces by the other person wanting to make it more....and I've never really perfected the "lets just be friends" speech..lol. It just kills to lose people like that...hopefully it'll happen less as I get older and wrinkled and therefor presumedly less desirable ;)

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For me, no, it is not something that I even think of actually..I have found so much pleasure in other things in life that nothing compares..heartfelt love, friendship, shared happiness, sadness, tender yet can shake your very being. The intensity of a disagreement but yet seeing and understanding the other persons side and being able to share that. to forgive, to apologize and mean it. Joy in spring, beauty in the lonliness of winter..so many things to satisfy me other than 1 millisecond of body contractions. all other things stay in my mind forever, the body contractions are gone the millisecond its over..not my cup of tea. This is only me and my personal feelings. Brenda Roberts

In a message dated 1/28/2006 6:21:49 AM Pacific Standard Time, elfiness@... writes:

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I understand this is maybe a too personnal question, but anyway, after all this list is for setting forth our personnals

So, asexuals don't like sex. What about masturbations? Do you consider it an 'asexual' alternative to intercourse? Do you hate it as well as sex? do you do it sometimes as a necessary evil?

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Hope to find some "oldsters" here to communicate with along with the youngsters. I'm not age bias, I tend to love people in general....diversity is essential to round a person out I think.

I'm one of the older ones; I'm 47. Some of my background: I've never been married or anything like that. I've dated over the years, but it's always ended up platonic; I've just never been interested in initiating anything sexual.

Last year I found out about various groups for asexuals, and it was a revelation to me; THIS is what I am. So recently I've been looking on dating services and so on, specifying right at the beginning that I'm only interested in platonic dating, to see who I could find for the kind of non-sexual companionship I would like. I met a few women, nothing continuing has come of it yet, but I'm still trying and hopeful.

Ted

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I understand this is maybe a too personnal question, but anyway, after all this list is for setting forth our personnals

So, asexuals don't like sex. What about masturbations? Do you consider it an 'asexual' alternative to intercourse? Do you hate it as well as sex? do you do it sometimes as a necessary evil?

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I personally, speaking for myself only, do not masterbate and never have. Just never had the desire to do so. I don't consider it 'evil', it is just something I don't do

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New research may indicate that asexuality is more common than previously thought By Chris Goodwin January 27, 2006

Asexuality: Its not just for amoebas any more reads a t-shirt sold at the website for the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). The campaign to raise awareness and public acceptance of asexuality is announcing to the world that it is a more common lifestyle than most think and is not a defect or dysfunction.

According to AVEN, the primarily accepted definition of an asexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction and/or desire.

Liza Jacobson is a student at Portland State who never felt entirely comfortable identifying herself sexually. She found it difficult to find people she could relate to until she stumbled across the website for AVEN. For the past six months, she has been researching asexuality and engaging in discussing with people of all genders and ages, pulled from a growing pool of 6,000 registered members.

I was kind of searching for my identity because I didnt feel like I was normal. I didnt feel that I was straight, but then I didnt feel that I was bi or lesbian, either, Jacobson said. I tried revising my sexual identity each time I had a new relationship to see what worked, and nothing did. Asexuality as a declared lifestyle has increased over that past decade. A 1994 survey, published by the University of Chicago press, found that out of 3,500 participants, 13 percent had not had sex in the past year. Out of those 13 percent, nearly half said they were still very or extremely happy with their lives. It also revealed that approximately 2 percent of the adult population had never had a sexual experience.

Another survey, published in 2004, was conducted by Anthony Bogaert, a Canadian psychologist and human sexuality expert. This survey found that 1 percent of the adult population has never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all.

While these surveys do not show that people self-identify as asexual, they illustrate that the fundamental aspects of asexuality have a strong presence. Some critics of the studies make the mistake of seeing asexuality as a permanent identification mark.

Jacobson points out that many asexuals see their sexual identity as subject to possible change. According to one of AVENs references, some people may identify as asexual for a long period of time and then later identify as straight, gay or bisexual. Some people may identify as gay or straight or bi, and also identify as asexual. Some people may identify as bisexual, gay or straight for a long time and then identify as asexual.

Helping people to understand asexuality is not an easy thing to do, according to David Jay, founder of AVEN. Tell someone on the street that you are asexual and theyll stare at you in disbelief, said Jay. He added that people typically assume the asexual is just a late bloomer. Jay has been spending his time giving talks, printing pamphlets, and even getting some media airtime. On This month on ABCs show The View, Jay was a guest and fielded some difficult questions and doubtful hosts. They spent a good amount of time talking about the role of romantic relationships and sex for asexuals.

I still have to think about forming relationships, I just dont have to think about forming relationships sexually How am I going to form intimacy in a way that isnt based on sexuality?

We live in this world where sexuality is kind of at the center of everything. Its at the center of how we think about relationships. Its at the center of how we think about pleasures, the center of how we think about a lot of aspects of our lives, Jay said. You can form a really close relationship where sex isnt at the center of it.

Jay explains that many asexuals are in loving relationships where they perform sexual activities as a means of intimacy. An asexual person who does not feel the desire to have sex can choose to have sex if theyre in that situation but it doesnt mean they have the desire. In a separate interview, Jay discussed the status of the AVEN movement: Its interesting because were in the shadow of the gay rights movement, so its a very different process now because we have things to draw on. There is also a culture that is ready to accept sexual variation much more readily than it was before.

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So, asexuals don't like sex. What about masturbations? Do you consider it an 'asexual' alternative to intercourse? Do you hate it as well as sex? do you do it sometimes as a necessary evil?

In my case, I do masturbate; masturbation is kind of the game version of sex for me. Just as I'd have no interest at all in fighting in a real war, but can still enjoy playing a wargame, I have no interest in actual sex with anyone, but still enjoy playing at it, so to speak, fantasizing a scenario and doing the physical stimulation.

Or for another aspect, think singing in the shower. I might enjoy singing in the shower, but not want anyone else to watch or hear me doing it. It's a minor private enjoyment, where having another person involved would just make me self-conscious and ruin the enjoyment.

I think it's about time to answer myself

I have never masturbated either. Of course whenever I say it (I am not that shy) they look at me like an alien which made me think like it's the most natural thing in the world. For a long time I have thought I am possibly the only person on earth ;)

The reason is that I believed it to be 'evil' and 'shame' (according to tradition) so I never considered doing it, except once, which was a failed attempt. A strong role played the fear of pain of the first time (yes I am a virgin also)

I personally, speaking for myself only, do not masterbate and never have. Just never had the desire to do so. I don't consider it 'evil', it is just something I don't do

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There is nothing shameful about mastribation. Monkeys (as well as other animals) even do it! What is shameful is the guilt that people (and/or cultures) put upon others for expressing themselves.

I don't mastribate because there is no point in it for me. I am unable to achieve orgasm, and thus uninterested in sex - leading to my subsequent interest in asexuality... I have better things to do with my time. I appreciate a good night's sleep with a fluffy down comforter and flannel sheets much more than a night of bedroom gymnastics.

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The reason is that I believed it to be 'evil' and 'shame' (according to tradition) so I never considered doing it, except once, which was a failed attempt. A strong role played the fear of pain of the first time (yes I am a virgin also)

Of course this thread should go further on the gay, straight, sexual, asexual divide that is a terrible paradigm.

I think that evidence is becoming more and more clear that there is a significant number of men and women who were born outside the norm. The norm is male, top, straight and sexual (MTSS) OR female, bottom, straight and sexual (FBSS). I am a male, but not a sexual because sex has never been a desire for me. Nor has being a top in a relationship ever appealed to me.

I am attracted to women if healthy, and height, weight proportionate- --and outside the norm! Most women are bottom sexuals. I have to say that I think that we are all on some kind of continuum in which many of us are neither purely male or female, straight, etc. Most women fit the norm, and are of no romantic interest to me whatsover!

I am not effeminate, but I am not comfortable with the masculine role either. The most appealing woman to me is someone who was born uncomfortable with the (normal) feminine role in life. I have known women who feel somewhat as if born male in a female body. Again, for most of us it is a continuum. I believe that asexuals tend to be neither purely feminine nor purele masculine.

I think we should be able to feel proud to not have the MTSS or FBSS gene. Or what some call the PIV gene. LOL. PIV stands for penis in vagina. Something that none of us seeks or desires I assume! Yet normals have the PIV gene big-time! Normals do not understand us, and we don't understand normals!

Yes, I masturbate. Many asexuals do. It does not matter if you do or you don't. It has nothing to do with being a sexual (MTSS or FBSS), unless you weirdly insist that it does. Masturbating does not mean wanting to rub genitals with somebody!

hmmmm, that does make me wonder. I would really be interested if this thread could go further on this. Brenda Roberts

In a message dated 1/25/2006 9:14:59 AM Pacific Standard Time, elfiness@y... writes:

of course not all the same. Not all gays are same, not all lesbians are same and of course not all hetero are same

however there are several asexuals that claim that what you, Tiffany, Mike et al represent is not asexuality, so they invented the word non-libidoism to destribe what they are

is it an different form of asexuality? is it PROPER asexuality, or a different thing?

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I don't view it as any type of "evil". I think it's completely natural. I actually prefer it.

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On Fri, 27 Jan 2006 17:32:22 EST, petguardian96@... wrote:

I am in California and an oldster LOL I also was born on valentines day and will be 54 on the 14th. My life is almost a mirror to yours with marriages and relationships but I was never blessed with children or grandchildren.

I'm also in California, going to be 50 this year, never married, no children, etc. I don't generally feel old except when I am sick, and then I feel *really* old.

Therese Shellabarger - Civis Mundi - tlshell@...

Asexuality From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

This article is about human asexuality. For asexuality in other organisms, see asexual reproduction. Asexuality is a designation or self-designation for people who lack feelings of sexual attraction and/or sexual desire. There is debate as to whether this is a sexual dysfunction or an actual sexual orientation; furthermore, there is disagreement over the exact definition of the word. The term is also sometimes used as a gender identity by those who believe their lack of sexual attraction places them outside the standard definitions of gender. There has been little research done on asexuality, but those studies that have been conducted suggest that, if it is a sexual orientation, it is the least commonly occurring one.

Debate There is disagreement over whether asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. Some argue that it falls under the heading of hypoactive sexual disorder or sexual aversion disorder. Among those who do not believe it to be an orientation, other suggested causes include past sexual abuse, sexual repression (of homosexuality or otherwise), hormonal problems, delayed development of attraction, and not having met the right person. Many self-identified asexuals, meanwhile, deny that such diagnoses apply to them; others argue that because their asexuality does not cause them distress it should not be viewed as a medical or emotional disorder. Others argue that in the past, similar things were said about homosexuality and bisexuality, despite the fact that many people now consider these to be legitimate orientations. Because of the lack of research on the subject, there is little documented evidence in favor of either side of the debate. [edit]

Research A study done on rams found that about 2% to 3% of the individuals being studied had no apparent interest in mating with either sex. Another study was done on rats and gerbils, in which up to 12% of the males showed no interest in females. Their interactions with other males were not measured, however, so the study is of limited use when it comes to asexuality (Westphal, 2004).

A UK survey of sexuality included a question on sexual attraction, and 1% of respondents replied that they had "never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all" (Bogaert, 2004). The Kinsey Institute conducted a small survey on the topic, which concluded that "asexuals appear to be better characterized by low sexual desire and sexual excitation than by low levels of sexual behavior or high sexual inhibition" (Prause and Graham, 2002). That study also mentions a conflict regarding the definition of "asexual": the researchers found four different definitions in the literature, and stated that it was unclear whether those identifying as asexual were referring to an orientation. [edit]

Variations There are differences among people that identify as asexual, chiefly among them the presence or absence of a sex drive or romantic attraction. Some experience only one of these, while others experience both, and still others neither. There is disagreement as to which of these configurations can genuinely be described as asexual. While a number of people believe all four variations qualify, many others believe that to be asexual, one must lack a sex drive, romantic attraction, or both. The sex drive of those asexuals who have one is not directed at anything: it is only an urge for sexual stimulation or release. It can range from weak to strong, and from rare to frequent. Some asexuals experience sexual feelings but have no desire to act on them, while others seek sexual release, either via masturbation or through sexual contact, or both.

For those asexuals who experience feelings of romantic attraction, it can be directed towards one or both genders. These asexuals often desire romantic relationships (ranging from casual liaisons to marriage) with their preferred gender or genders, but often do not want these relationships to include sexual activity. Because of their romantic orientation, some asexuals describe themselves as gay, bisexual, or straight asexuals; this is related to the concept of affectional orientation. Those asexuals who do want romantic relationships are in a difficult position, as the majority of people are not asexual. Asexuals able to tolerate sex can pair up with non-asexuals, but even then their lack of attraction can be psychologically distressing to their partner, making a long-term romance difficult. Asexuals who cannot tolerate sex must either compromise with their partners and have a certain amount anyway, give their partners permission to seek sex elsewhere, have sexless relationships with those few who are willing, only date other asexuals, or stay single.

Some asexuals use a classification system developed (and then retired) by the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, one of the major online asexual communities (abbreviated as AVEN). In this system, asexuals are divided into types A through D: a Type A asexual has a sex drive but no romantic attraction, a Type B has romantic attraction but no sex drive, a Type C has both, and a Type D neither. The categories are not meant to be entirely discrete or set in stone; one's type can change, or one can be on the border between two types. Note that AVEN itself no longer uses this system, on the basis that it is too exclusive, but a number of asexuals still feel it is a useful tool for explaining their orientation.

Note that asexuality is not the same as celibacy, which is the deliberate abstention from sexual activity; many asexuals do have sex, and most celibates are not asexual. [edit]

Asexuality and religion Several religions or religious sects believe that asexuality is a spiritually superior condition, and some asexuals believe that their lack of "base desires" allows them to feel a deeper spirituality, although other asexuals consider that an elitist attitude. For example, it is likely that in past centuries, many Catholic priests, popes, monks, and nuns were asexuals, including many canonized saints. In other creeds, children are considered a gift from God that should not be refused, a means of spreading religion, or both; it should be noted, though, that some asexuals do have children, and some religions have praised both asexuality and children. Furthermore, according to some religious beliefs, sexuality itself is sacred or a divine gift; certain varieties of Tantra involve sex, for example, and some types of neopaganism and New Age include the concept of sacred sexuality. Currently, asexuality faces little religious condemnation. [edit]

Famous asexuals There exists strong circumstantial evidence that the following people are or were asexual. Please note, however, that many in the list below have been speculated to be bisexual or gay.

E. L. Adams Hans Christian Andersen J.M. Barrie Jorge Luis Borges George Washington Carver Henry Cavendish (may have had autism or an extreme form of social anxiety disorder) Frdric Chopin (according to his lover of ten years, George Sand) Paul Erds Glenn Gould Josh Harvey Immanuel Kant T.E. Lawrence H.P. Lovecraft Christopher McCandless Morrissey Ralph Nader Isaac Newton Quietus Maurice Ravel John Ruskin Antnio de Oliveira Salazar Alberto Santos-Dumont Erik Satie George Bernard Shaw Stephen Somerville Jim Steinman Sun Ra Nikola Tesla Velvet Cacoon (but it is difficult to verify the truth about this band and which member(s) is/are said/claiming to be asexual) [edit]

Asexuality in fiction Perhaps the earliest example of an asexual character can be found in Hippolytus, who shuns all women and devotes his life to chastity. In fiction, John Braine's novel The Jealous God (1964) is a good example of sex mainly seen as a sin. On the other hand, in his science fiction novel Distress (1995), Greg Egan imagines a 22nd century world where "asex" is one out of seven acknowledged gender settings. To quote from Distress:

"Asex was really nothing but an umbrella term for a broad group of philosophies, styles of dress, cosmetic-surgical changes, and deep-biological alterations. The only thing that one asex person necessarily had in common with another was the view that vis gender parameters (neural, endocrine, chromosomal and genital) were the business of no one but verself, usually (but not always) vis lovers, probably vis doctor, and sometimes a few close friends. What a person actually did in response to that attitude could range from as little as ticking the 'A' box on census forms, to choosing an asex name, to breast or body-hair reduction, voice timbre adjustment, facial resculpting, empouchment (surgery to render the male genitals retractable), all the way to full physical and/or neural asexuality, hermaphroditism, or exoticism." (Distress, paperback ed., p. 45) An example of a sympathetically presented asexual character in science fiction is Aghora, one of Alejandro Jodorowsky's Metabarons, who is not only asexual but also a transman.

Samuel R. Delany's 1969 short story "Aye, and Gomorrah..." depicts a society where astronauts become sexless because cosmic radiation renders their reproductive organs useless.

Ryan A. Morgan's 1997 novel John-Jack Christian tells about a teenager struggling to deal with his asexuality in a normal teenage environment, before resorting to bodybuilding to keep himself sane. In the original Doctor Who television series (19631989), the Doctor was almost always depicted as asexual despite his regular stream of attractive young female companions. Since the First Doctor's first companion, Susan Foreman, was introduced as his grandaughter, it is often assumed, but never confirmed, that the Doctor was at one time in his early life married with children. The 1996 Doctor Who television movie caused some controversy among Doctor Who fans by having the Eighth Doctor kiss his companion Grace. In the new series (2005), the Doctor is occasionally flirtatious, and has a romantically tinged relationship with his companion Rose Tyler. See also The Doctor and romance.

In the K. Sandra Fuhr's online strips Boy Meets Boy (ended) and Friendly Hostility (ongoing), the cynical Collin Sri'Vastra claims to be asexual. He later forms a relationship with his best friend Kailen "Fox" Maharassa, but his romantic/affectionate levels appear to be rather low, at least at the beginning.

One of the central characters of Isabel Allende's The House of Spirits, Clara, could be construed as asexual. In her later years, she expresses a lack of interest in coitus, commenting that it only makes her bones ache.

The eponymous central character in Kurt Vonnegut's Deadeye Dick is asexual due to childhood trauma.

Many fans of Neon Genesis Evangelion believe that Rei Ayanami is asexual, since she never shows any signs of having a sex drive, the closest thing she comes to doing so is her platonic love for Shinji Ikari. Another Evangelion character, Shigeru Aoba, is implied to be asexual in The End of Evangelion. [edit]

See also Sexual orientation Celibacy Affectional orientation Androgyny [edit]

References Bogaert, Anthony F. (August 2004). Asexuality: prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample. Journal of Sex Research. Retrieved 5 March 2005. Egan, Greg (1995). Distress. Prause, Nicole, and Graham. Asexuality: a preliminary investigation. Retrieved 4 March 2005. (Note: Power Point file.) Westphal, Sylvia Pagan (14 October 2004). Glad to be asexual. New Scientist. [edit]

External links Asexual Visibility and Education Network Asexual and proud!. Salon, (May 26, 2005). Feature: Glad to be asexual New Scientist, (October 14, 2004). No sex please, we're asexual. The Guardian, (14 October 2004). Study: One in 100 adults asexual. CNN, (14 October 2004). Asexual personals The Official Nonlibidoism Society Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality"

Asexuality: prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample

Journal of Sex Research, August, 2004 by Anthony F. Bogaert

Asexuality, the state of having no sexual attraction for either sex, has been studied only sparingly. Related issues are sexual aversion disorder and hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), which have been studied more frequently in recent years (e.g., Beck, 1995; Rosen & Leiblum, 1995). In both sexual aversion disorder and HSDD, there usually is or was a sexual orientation toward partners of either or both genders, but there is either an aversion for genital contact with these partners (e.g., extreme anxiety when a sexual encounter presents itself) or a low sexual desire for these partners. Sexual aversion disorder and HSDD issues often arise within the context of couples--as, for example, when a "discrepancy of sexual desire" is diagnosed. Asexuality, in contrast, can be defined as the absence of a traditional sexual orientation, in which an individual would exhibit little or no sexual attraction to males or females. One such model of asexuality was developed by Storms (1980; see also Berkey, Perelman-Hall, & Kurdek, 1990). Storms classified heterosexuals as individuals who are highly attracted to the other sex (i.e., high in heteroeroticism), homosexuals as individuals who are highly attracted to the same sex (i.e., high in homoeroticism), bisexuals as individuals who are highly attracted to both sexes (i.e., high in both heteroeroticism and homoeroticism), and asexuals as individuals who are not attracted to either sex (i.e., low in both heteroeroticism and homoeroticism). In this study, I undertook the investigation of lifelong asexuality, defined as having no sexual attraction for either sex. Note that the definition of asexuality here concerns a lack of sexual attraction to either sex and not necessarily a lack of sexual behavior with either sex or self-identification as an asexual. Sexual behavior and sexual self-identification are of course correlated with sexual attraction, but, for a variety of reasons, one's attraction to men or women and overt sexual behavior or sexual self-identification may have a less-than-perfect correspondence. It is of note that many sexual orientation researchers have recently emphasized sexual attraction over overt behavior or self-identification in conceptualizing sexual orientation (e.g., Bailey, Dunne, & Martin, 2000; Bogaert, 2003b; Money, 1988; Zucker & Bradley, 1995).

One fundamental question for the present research was the prevalence of asexuality. Is it as prevalent as other atypical sexual orientations such as same-sex attraction or is it extremely rare? Given the paucity of research on the subject, one might expect asexuality, particularly life-long asexuality, to be very unusual. A very low level of asexuality is also predicted from evolutionary models of human behavior because one would expect strong selection pressures against such nonreproductive tendencies. On the other hand, same-sex attraction is also clearly a nonreproductive orientation, and yet its prevalence over time and across societies continues to challenge evolutionary theorists (e.g., Bobrow & Bailey, 2001).

Little is also known about the factors associated with asexuality. Therefore, the present study was an attempt to open up the field and begin to explore factors associated with this relatively uncharted area of sexual variability. Of course, one factor that should be an obvious predictor is sexual behavior itself, particularly with a partner. However, given that sexual attraction and sexual behavior are imperfectly correlated, a complete absence of partnered sexual behavior is not expected for all asexual people. Some level of sexual activity--perhaps as a result of exploration or to please a partner is expected for some asexual people, although sexual activity should be much more infrequent in asexual people relative to sexual people. Thus, relative to sexual people, asexual people should report fewer sexual partners of both sexes, later first sexual experiences if indeed a sexual experience with a partner has occurred, and less frequent sexual activity with a partner.

Aside from sexuality itself, one factor that may be an important predictor is age. First awareness of sexual attraction occurs for many people around the age of 10, often preceding puberty and associated with the development of the adrenal glands and not the gonads (Herdt & McClintock, 2000; McClintock & Herdt, 1996). However, people probably vary in their awareness and experience of first sexual attraction, with a variety of social and psychological factors along with biological aspects contributing to such awareness and experience. For example, sexual attraction to others has been argued to be partly the result of arousal experiences--through, for example, masturbation, fantasy, and sexual activity--directed at or with partners (e.g., Storms, 1981). Sexual attraction has also been argued to be partly the result of exposure to and familiarity with same-sex or oppositesex peers (e.g., Bem, 1996). As a consequence, perhaps some younger individuals--for example, late adolescents or even young adults--may have had few if any relevant social and psychological opportunities to experience or initiate sexual attraction to others. Thus, young people may be more likely to be asexual, although they may be best described as in a "presexual" life stage, which may change as they age.

Another relevant factor may be illness, disease, and disability. Although I know of no strong empirical evidence supporting such a belief, there is a stereotype that disabled people are asexual beings (e.g., Milligan & Neufeldt, 2001). One of the reasons people with disabilities are perceived as asexual is that others assume that low sexual activity or functioning is equivalent to asexuality. Although probably an incorrect assumption in many cases, there may be some logic to this reasoning: Some chronic health problems may reduce sexual functioning and restrict sexual activity to such a degree that some people with these conditions may be perceived by others and themselves as having little or no sexual attraction to partners of either sex. Many chronic or debilitating health conditions have been associated with low sexual functioning and/or activity and thus may be relevant in this regard, including spinal cord injuries (e.g., Szasz & Carpenter, 1989), multiple sclerosis (e.g., Schover, Thomas, Lakin, Montague, & Fisher, 1988), pituitary disorders (e.g., Cohen, Greenberg, & Murray, 1984), schizophrenia and other neurological or psychiatric conditions (e.g., Fortier, Trudel, Mottard, & Piche, 2000), and eating disorders (e.g., Carlat & Camargo, 1991; Ghizzani & Montomoli, 2000).

These and other health problems are often related to unusual physical development characteristics. People with unusual physical development characteristics--for example, short stature, obesity or extremely low weight, or late puberty onset--may have, or have had, debilitating medical conditions that led to these characteristics. Thus, these characteristics may be markers of poor health and development, which may alter sexual functioning and thus lead to the perception by others and themselves that they have little or no attraction for a partner of a particular sex.

Note that in the above discussion it is assumed that these health problems and the unusual physical characteristics they may give rise to affect asexuality indirectly by, for example, reducing sexual functioning and sexual drive, which in turn can cause those with such problems and characteristics, as well as other people, to think that they have little attraction to others. However, it should be kept in mind that certain biological conditions could affect mechanisms of sexual attraction for a partner more directly by, for example, specifically affecting brain structures hypothesized to underlie sexual orientation (e.g., anterior hypothalamus; see LeVay, 1991). Both stature and the timing of puberty are interesting in this regard because they are partially regulated by the hypothalamus (e.g., Grumbach & Styne, 1992). Indeed, the fact that homosexual men may differ from heterosexual men in height and pubertal timing has provided support for the notion that the development of sexual attraction processes is affected by biological factors (e.g., prenatal hormones) originating prior to birth (see Bogaert, 2003a; Bogaert & Blanchard, 1996; Bogaert, Friesen, & Klentrou, 2002; cf. Bogaert & Friesen, 2002).

Another possible factor related to asexuality is religiosity. Most religions have strong proscriptions against liberal sexual practices, and some (e.g., Buddhism, Roman Catholicism) see complete abstinence as a virtue. Some very religious individuals may have internalized these values to such a degree that they may not admit to arousal, or at least not label it as sexual attraction. In addition, some religious people may be less likely to have developed a strong attraction to others because they are less likely to have gone through relevant "conditioning" experiences (e.g., less early masturbation). On the other hand, religiosity may not play a causal role in the development of asexuality but it may still relate to asexuality, because asexual people may find acceptance in certain religious communities that value restricted sexuality or they may find religious regulations against sexual behavior easier to uphold than sexual people. There is some evidence that religious people relative to nonreligious people do have lower rates of some sexual activities such as masturbation or multiple partners (Lanmann, Gagnon, Michael, & Michaels, 1994), but I do not know of any evidence that asexuality is higher among religious individuals.

Other factors that may be relevant are education and general economic circumstances, such as socioeconomic status (SES) or social class, if normal sexual development partly occurs within a context of a typical physical and social environment (e.g., exposure to and familiarity with peers; see Bem, 1996; Storms, 1981), then education and general economic circumstances may be relevant predictors of asexuality. Thus, low education (and low SES) may be a proxy for unusual social and physical circumstances during childhood and adolescence (e.g., fewer resources; increased stressors; fewer peer interactions), which may have altered typical sexual development. On the other hand, low education and SES and the unusual social circumstances they may underlie may not be causally related to asexuality, but may still be relevant predictors of asexuality because the putative health problems of asexual people may lead to low educational opportunities and economic hardship.

A final factor related to asexuality may be gender. It is clear that men and women differ with regard to sexuality, with men relative to women reporting higher rates of certain sexual activities (e.g., more masturbation, sexual thoughts or fantasies, and casual sex; e.g., Oliver & Hyde, 1993). These differences are argued to be a reflection of gender roles (Oliver & Hyde, 1993), strength or flexibility of sex drive (Baumeister, 2000), or evolutionarily based reproductive strategies (e.g., Buss & Schmitt, 1993). If gender differences in sexuality--in particular masturbation and fantasy--are relevant to the development of sexual orientation (e.g., Storms, 1981), then one might speculate that women will be more likely than men to be asexual because they are, on average, less likely to have had conditioning experiences relevant to sexual orientation development. Moreover, research shows that women are less likely than men to label genital responses, even when measured by psychophysical devices, as sexual arousal (e.g., Heiman, 1977; Laan, Everaerd, van Bellen, & Hanewald, 1994). As a consequence, women relative to men may be less likely to label males or females as salient sexual objects and hence more likely to report themselves as having no attraction for men or women because they do not perceive sexual arousal as consistently as men do, even under conditions when genital responses are occurring. On the other hand, men are more likely than women to have an increased prevalence of atypical sexual attraction, such as same-sex attraction and paraphilias (e.g., Freund, 1994; Laumann et al., 1994); thus, it may be the case that asexuality is another atypical sexual proclivity for which men show higher rates than do women.

In the present study, I investigated asexuality, defined as having no attraction for males or females. The data came from a national probability sample of British residents (Johnson, Wadsworth, Wellings, & Field, 1994; Wellings, Field, Johnson, & Wadsworth, 1994) in which the prevalence and predictors (e.g., health, physical development, demographics, religiosity) of asexuality were investigated. This survey was stimulated by the need for sexual information about the general population in the wake of the AIDS epidemic, and it is among the most representative sexuality surveys of recent years (see Hyde & DeLamater, 2000). In addition, unlike other samples of its kind (e.g., Laumann et al., 1994), it contains relatively specific information relevant to the assessment of asexuality.

METHOD

Sample

Johnson et al. (1994) used a probability sample of households in Britain (England, Wales, and Scotland). In households where an eligible respondent--a person between the ages of 16 and 59--could be identified and interviewed, participation rate was 71.5%. The final sample contained 18,876 participants. Participants were interviewed and given one of two versions of a questionnaire: a long form to which a representative quarter of the sample responded (n = 4,548) or a short form to which the remainder responded. For this study, I used the total sample to maximize the number of cases. However, from the total of 18,876 cases, I eliminated 195 participants because the interviewers reported that these individuals had "severe" language, literacy, or other problems during the interview and questionnaire process.

Measure of Sexual Attraction and Asexuality

The measure of sexual attraction was introduced as follows: "I have felt sexually attracted to ..." Six options followed: (a) "only females, never to males" (male n = 7,482, female n = 28); (b) "more often to females, and at least once to a male" (male n = 321, female n = 21); (c) "about equally often to males and females" (male n = 45, female n = 21); (d) "more often to males, and at least once to a female" (male n = 42, female n = 406); (e) "only males, never to females" (male n = 42, female n = 9,969); and (f) "I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all" (male n = 57, female n = 138). Thirty-eight men and 63 women refused to answer this question and were thus eliminated from further analyses.

For the present study, I counted as asexuals those who responded to this sexual attraction question with "I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all." I categorized as "sexuals" the remaining participants--those reporting that they had felt attraction to either males, females, or both (male n = 7,932, female n = 10,494).

Predictors of Asexuality

The survey comprised three measures of sexuality: age of first experience, total partners, and sexual frequency. For the first of these measures, both men and women were asked about their age of first sexual experience with the other sex: "How old were you when you first had any type of experience of a sexual kind--for example, kissing, cuddling, petting--with someone of the opposite sex?" They were also asked about their first same-sex experience: "Have you ever had any kind of sexual experience or sexual contact with a male? (or "female" if the respondent was a woman)?" and "How old were you the first time that ever happened?" If the respondent had experience with both sexes, the earlier of the two ages was used; if the respondent had experience with only one sex, only that score was used. This measure was recorded in full years. Interviewers also asked for their total number of male and female sexual partners ("Altogether, in your life so far, with how many men [women] have you had sexual intercourse [vaginal, oral, or anal]?"). If the respondent had both male and female partners, the total of the two counts was used; if the respondent had only male or female partners, only that score was used. For frequency of sexual experiences with a partner, the participants were asked about their frequency of sexual activity with men and women over the last 7 days ("On how many occasions in the last 7 days have you had sex with a man [woman]?"). If the respondent had sex with both men and women in the last week, the total of the two frequencies was used; if the respondent had sex with only men or women, only that score was used. Unfortunately, there were no questions relevant to masturbation and fantasy during childhood, adolescence, or adulthood on the survey (Johnson et al., 1994; Wellings et al., 1994).

Four measures assessed participants' health. One was "For your age, would you describe your state of health as ..." with response options from 1 = very good to 5 = very poor. A second measure was "Do you have a permanent disability?" (1 = yes and 2 = no). A third measure was "Do you have a long-term medical condition that requires treatment or check-ups?" (1 = yes and 2 = no). The last measure was "In the last 5 years, did you have any illness/accident that affected your health for at least 3 months?" (1 = yes and 2 = no). The last three health measures were recoded so that poor health had high scores (1 = 1 ; 2 = 0) and the mean of the four health measures served as an aggregate variable of health problems.

Physical development measures included a question about the age of onset for menarche, which was recorded in full years (men were not asked about their age of puberty). Interviewers also asked participants for their weight (responses converted to kilograms) and height (responses converted to meters).

Two questions assessed religiosity. One was the frequency of attendance at services, where 1 = once a week or more and 8 = never (or not applicable because not religious). This variable was recoded so that 0 = never and 7 = once a week or more. A second measure of religiosity was whether the respondent had a religious affiliation: 1 = religious affiliation; 2, 3, and 4 = Christian affiliations; and 5 = non-Christian affiliation. This variable was recoded so that 1 = religious affiliation and 0 = no religious affiliation.

Demographics

Demographic variables included age (in years); marital status (1 = married, 2 = cohabitation, opposite sex, 3 = cohabitation, same sex, 4 = widowed, 5 = divorced/separated, or 6 = single); education (1 = degree, 2 = higher education, but below degree level, 3 = 0 level or equivalent, 4 = other/foreign, or 5 = none/no exams passed); and social class or SES (1 = professional, 2 = intermediate, 3 = skilled non-manual, 4 = skilled manual, 5 = part-skilled, 6 = unskilled, or 7 = other). Both education and social class were reverse coded so that high levels of education and social class had high scores (i.e., 1 = none/no exams passed to 5 = degree; and 1 = other to 7 = professional). Finally, the interviewers assessed race-ethnicity (1 = White, 2 = Black, 3 = Asian, or 4 = other). Race-ethnicity was recoded so that 0 = White and 1 = non-White.

RESULTS

Of the participants, 195 or 1.05% reported being asexual. (1) This rate is very similar to the rate of same-sex attraction (both exclusive same-sex and bisexuality combined; 207 or 1.11%). However, binomial tests indicated that there were more gay and bisexual men than asexual men (p < .001) and more asexual women than lesbian and bisexual women (p < .001). (2)

Sexuality

As shown in Table 1, relative to sexual people, asexual people had fewer sexual partners, had a later onset of sexual activity (if it occurred), and had less frequent sexual activity with a partner currently. Overall, then, asexual people had less sexual experience with sexual partners, and this fact provides some validation of the concept of asexuality.

Demographics

As also shown in Table 1, some significant relationships occurred between asexuality and the demographics. Contrary to prediction, asexual people were not younger than sexual people; in fact, they were somewhat older. However, as predicted, more women than men reported being asexual. Not surprisingly, there were fewer asexual people than sexual people currently in (or having had) a long-term relationship. On the other hand, a significant minority of the asexual people, 85 of the 195 (44%), were currently in or had had long-term cohabiting or marital relationships, with 64 (33%) currently married or cohabitating (see Diamond, 2003, for a distinction between romantic and sexual desire/attraction). Asexual individuals were also more likely than sexual individuals to come from lower socioeconomic conditions. A higher percentage (13%) of asexual individuals were also non-White relative to the sexual individuals (4%). Finally, asexual individuals were less well educated than the sexual individuals.

Health, Physical Development, and Religiosity

Asexual people were more likely to have adverse health, and the asexual women had a later onset of menarche relative to the sexual women. Asexual people were also shorter and weighed less than the sexual people. Finally, there was some evidence that asexual people were more religious than sexual people, at least with regard to attendance at religious services.

Multivariate Analyses

I conducted logistic regressions, one for men and one for women, with asexuality (0 = sexual, 1 = asexual) as the criterion and the significant demographics (except for gender and marital status/cohabitation), religiosity, and health and physical development factors as simultaneously entered predictors. The results of these analyses are shown in Table 2. For women, the majority of the predictors--age, social class, race-ethnicity, education, menarche, height, and religiosity--were significant. Thus, all of these variables accounted for unique variation in the prediction of asexuality. Only weight and health were not significant. However, when social class, and education were eliminated from the regression equation health was significant, suggesting that health and social class (and education) are related (e.g., Link & Phelan, 1995; Ross & Van Willigen, 1997) and that the health problems of asexual women may be partly the result of economic problems experienced by individuals of lower socioeconomic status. (3)

For men, social class, education, height (marginal), and religiosity were significant, and therefore all of these variables accounted for unique variation in the prediction of asexuality. As in women, health was not significant. However, similar to the results for women, when social class and education were eliminated from the regression equation, health was significant, suggesting again that health and social class (and educational attainment) are related (e.g., Link & Phelan, 1995; Ross & Van Willigen, 1997). (4,5)

DISCUSSION

This study investigated asexuality, defined as a lack of sexual attraction for either sex, in a national probability sample. A significant minority (1.05%) of people reported that they had never felt sexual attraction to anyone at all. This rate of asexuality was similar to the rate of same-sex attraction. It is interesting to speculate why asexual people have been overlooked when discussions of sexual variability are presented. Perhaps this group is relatively invisible because their inclinations do not lead to overt sociosexual activities that would bring attention to their activities. The absence of sexual activities and the inclinations that induce this absence are not likely to bring public attention or scrutiny, either positive or negative. Neither, of course, has it been illegal or perceived as morally wrong to have such inclinations. Therefore, unlike other sexual minorities (e.g., gay people), asexual individuals would not have had to face public scrutiny from the press, religious institutions, or the legal system. (This is not to say, of course, that in their private and family lives asexual people have not felt pressure to take on traditional sexual and reproductive roles.) In addition, until recently sexual surveys using national probability samples were not conducted, so the vast majority of sexual studies using convenience samples of volunteers probably did not include many asexual people. Research shows, for example, that those who choose to participate in a sexual study have more sexual experience (e.g., more partners) and are more interested in sexual activity than those who do not participate (Bogaert, 1996; Morokoff, 1986; Saunders, Fisher, Hewitt, & Clayton, 1985). Indeed, it is interesting to speculate about whether the rate of asexuality is actually higher than reported here given that some of the participants who declined to participate in this survey (about 30%) could also be asexual.

This study provided a preliminary examination of some of the factors associated with asexuality. A variety of demographic (gender, social class, education, and race-ethnicity), physical development (height and menarche onset), health, and religiosity variables predicted asexuality. It is interesting that many of these variables independently predicted asexuality. This suggests that there may be a number of independent developmental pathways, perhaps both biological and psychosocial, leading to asexuality. Even the physical development and health variables--late menarche, a shorter stature, and health problems in women and a shorter stature and health problems in men--independently predicted asexuality. This suggests that physical development factors that are independent of general debilitating illnesses (which may lower sex drive or interest) may affect growth and development mechanisms related to sexual orientation (e.g., anterior hypothalamus; see LeVay, 1991). These findings also add to a growing body of literature showing that the development of sexual attraction to adult men and women along with some atypical sexual proclivities may be partly biologically based and determined prior to birth (e.g., Bogaert, 2001; Bogaert, 2003a; Ellis & Ames, 1987; Lalumiere, Blanchard, & Zucker, 2000; Williams et al., 2000).

The results regarding the demographic variables suggest that one pathway to asexuality may relate to an environment different from a traditional middle-class or upper-middle-class White home (e.g., one with fewer resources). I found large differences between asexual and sexual people in education and social class, with asexual people tending to score lower on these demographic variables. This suggests that the educational system and the home environment play fundamental roles in typical sexual development, and that alterations of these circumstances can have a profound effect on basic sexual attraction processes. Moreover, the fact that the social class-asexuality and education-asexuality relationships remained significant when I controlled for general physical health suggests that these relationships do not occur merely because people with serious health problems, which may contribute to asexuality, are less likely to be able to attain a higher education or improve their life circumstances. Rather, these results suggest that the health problems of some asexual people may be the result of disadvantaged economic and social conditions. It is difficult to know what aspects of the educational and home environments may contribute to asexuality. As mentioned earlier, perhaps processes related to exposure to and familiarity with peers (see Bem, 1996; Storms, 1981) are altered when the home and educational environment are atypical. It is also important to point out that an atypical home environment for asexual people may have occurred prior to childhood during gestation, as might be expected if an altered prenatal milieu (e.g., altered prenatal hormones) partly underlies asexuality and other atypical sexual inclinations (e.g., Bogaert, 2001; Ellis & Ames, 1987; Lalumiere et al., 2000; Williams et al., 2000).

Gender was also an important predictor of asexuality. More women than men reported being asexual. This difference may be a reflection of gender roles and/or sexual strategies in which men are or at least are expected to be more sexual than women. If so, perhaps some women have internalized to an extreme degree, and hence "overadapted" to, these feminine roles or strategies (e.g., Mazur, 1986). Some research has also suggested that women's sexuality (or at least their sex drive) is more "plastic" than men's sexuality (e.g., Baumeister, 2000). Thus, cultural influences may have a more profound effect on women's sexuality than on men's; as a result, more women than men may become asexual if life circumstances are atypical. A related explanation is that women relative to men may be less likely to label males or females as salient sexual objects and hence may report themselves as having no attraction to either sex because they may not be as aware of their own sexual arousal as men are, even under conditions when genital responses are occurring (e.g., Heimen, 1977; Laan et al., 1994). A third possibility is that women may have fewer conditioning experiences (e.g., masturbation) relevant to sexual orientation development and this may lead to an increased likelihood of asexuality, along with other conditions.

Another possibility is that our conception of sexual orientation as an attraction to another person does not adequately address some women's subjective experience of sexual arousal and attraction. Traditional sexual orientation questions have an inherent "target-oriented" view of sexual response and arousal; that is, they imply that sexual response and arousal must be directed toward or targeted to someone or to a particular sex. These questions may not adequately capture the nature of some women's sexuality. The distinction between proceptive and receptive sexual desire may be relevant in this regard (Beach, 1976; Wallen, 1995). Proceptive desire--the urge to seek out and initiate sexual activity--may be more common in men than in women, whereas receptive desire--the capacity to become aroused upon encountering certain sexual circumstances--may characterize women's sexuality more than men's (e.g., Baumeister, 2000; Diamond, 2003). Proceptive desire relative to receptive desire may be more conducive to a target-oriented view of sexual arousal and thus may capture the traditional and hence more male-oriented conceptions of sexual attraction. It is also interesting that recent data using psychophysical measures of genital response are challenging the assumption that women's sexual arousal patterns are like men's (Chivers, Rieger, Latty, & Bailey, in press). Chivers et al. (in press) have found that, unlike those of men, women's sexual arousal patterns are not primarily targeted toward the other sex (i.e., sex-specific). Instead, women have a bisexual arousal pattern to sexual stimuli, being physiologically aroused to both male and female stimuli. How these findings relate to the present gender difference in asexuality is unknown, but they do underscore the fact that sexual arousal and attraction processes may play fundamentally different roles in men's and women's sexuality.

Contrary to prediction, a younger age was not related to asexuality. In fact, asexual people were slightly older than sexual people. This result does not give support to the idea that many asexual individuals are "presexual" or in an early developmental stage prior to adult-oriented sexual attraction. Thus, although adolescents and some young adults probably vary in their awareness or experience of first sexual attraction (with a variety of social and psychological circumstances and biological aspects contributing to such awareness or experience), it would seem that most of the asexual individuals in this sample probably had had enough time to encounter the necessary circumstances to initiate sexual attraction experiences. Either they did not want to enter into such circumstances because of their asexual natures, or they had passed a critical age window beyond which these social and psychological circumstances were no longer sufficient to initiate sexual attraction to others.

The present study attempted to begin to explore factors associated with asexuality, a relatively uncharted area of sexual variability. A first limitation of this type of exploratory investigation is that the results are preliminary and in need of replication. Second, although the size and nature (national probability) of the sample make these data the best currently available to test ideas relevant to this investigation, there are a number of sample and survey limitations that need to be addressed. For example, the interview and questionnaire protocol were designed as a general survey on sexuality and STDs (i.e., HIV/AIDS). As a result, the questions were not specifically designed to test issues related to the development of asexuality, and thus a number of questions relevant to the developmental history of sexual and asexual people (e.g., early sexual life, fantasy, masturbation) were not included.

Some researchers may also have concerns about the measure of asexuality used in this survey. As mentioned, a sexual attraction measure of this kind, relative to measures of sexual behavior and sexual self-identification, is often the preferred method for assessing sexual orientation (e.g., Bailey et al., 2000; Bogaert, 2003b; Money, 1988; Zucker & Bradley, 1995). However, to increase reliability of measurement and to expand this research, a number of components of attraction (e.g., fantasy, arousal) along with a self-identification of asexuality should be included in future research. It is possible that the results may differ in future research when individuals are categorized as asexual based on self-identification. Moreover, future research could include measures of affectional bonding to or romantic desire for males or females, which may still occur in asexual people even though sexual attraction to males or females may be low or nonexistent (c.f. Diamond, 2003).

Another issue regarding the measure of asexuality concerns how people with other atypical sexual proclivities might respond to the sexual attraction question used here ("I have felt sexually attracted to ..." with options relating to males, females, or no one at all). It is unknown whether, for example, some of the asexual people in this sample pedophiles or other paraphiliacs. This is probably unlikely, given that the statement "I never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all" would presumably exclude not only heterosexuals and homosexuals but also pedophiles and most paraphiliacs, because these sexual tendencies usually entail some level of human partner involvement. It is also unlikely that a significant number of the asexuals are paraphiliacs given that most of the asexual people in this sample were women, who tend to be very underrepresented in the incidence of paraphilias (e.g., Freund, 1994). An additional consideration is that the sample represents only a small region of the Western world (England, Wales, & Scotland). Other nations, including other Western nations, may exhibit different patterns of asexuality.

Another limitation of this study is that there is likely to be an underreporting of sensitive or socially undesirable information, particularly because face-to-face interviews were used. This probably results in a lowering of reports of same-sex attraction and behavior, along with a decreased reporting of a lack of sexual attraction (i.e., asexuality). Thus, as mentioned above in the context of participation rates, the incidence of asexuality may be higher than what is reported here. Also, any comparison between the prevalence of asexuality and the prevalence of same-sex attraction--similar in the present study--will probably vary depending on the survey and the information-gathering technique.

An additional limitation is that the data are not longitudinal and the causal and temporal order of the variables is not clear. Thus, although a number of factors are related and independently predicted asexuality, these relationships need further examination. For example, religious people tended to be asexual, but it is unclear why this relationship exists. One possibility is that asexual people seek out (or are accepted by) religious institutions because they offer a supportive haven for their lifestyles. Another possibility is that extreme religiosity contributes more directly to asexuality, perhaps by reducing the tendency to admit to sexual arousal (or at least to label it as sexual attraction) or by restricting normal peer interactions such as dating and/or sexual fantasy and masturbation, activities that may help stimulate typical sexual attraction processes. A final possibility is that there may be a third (unknown and unmeasured) variable that accounts for this relationship between asexuality and religiosity.

Using psychophysical (e.g., phallometry) measures, future research could evaluate the physiological arousal and attraction patterns of asexual people. Similar to the evidence presented here that asexual people have limited sexual experience, an investigation of this kind would provide validation of the concept of asexuality if asexual people showed little or no sexual response to sexual stimuli involving (potential) partners of either sex. In addition, such research may be able to investigate whether some people's asexuality is best described as a "perceived" or "reported" lack of attraction rather than a true lack of physiological attraction to a partner of either sex. In other words, there may be a group of so-called "true" asexual people (defined as those who lack sexual attraction for partners of either sex) who show no physiological response to stimuli with males or females as sexual targets and another group of individuals who show typical attraction and arousal patterns and yet report, label, or perceive themselves as being asexual for various reasons (e.g., not aware of own arousal; deny arousal). Given that studies of sexuality--particularly volunteer studies with invasive procedures--select against people with low levels of sexual activity (e.g., Bogaert, 1996; Morokoff, 1986), a challenge for this type of psychophysical research would be recruiting a sizable sample of asexual people.

Table 1. Comparisons of Asexual and Sexual People on Predictor Variables Asexuals Sexuals (n = 195) (n = 18,426) Variable M SD M SD Sexual activity Age first sex 16.78 3.36 14.82 2.99 Total partners 0.94 1.20 2.65 1.61 Sex frequency 0.20 0.71 1.16 1.59 Demographics Age 38.36 14.29 36.31 11.71 Gender (% men) 29.23 -- 43.17 Marital status (% non-single) 32.82 -- 63.65 Education 2.03 1.31 2.94 1.32 Racelethnicity (% White) 86.01 -- 95.51 -- SES 3.27 1.71 4.51 1.69 Religiosity Affiliation (%) 60.00 -- 56.99 -- Attendance 2.24 2.92 1.65 2.47 Health/physical characteristics Menarche 13.54 1.95 12.93 1.56 Height 1.65 0.10 1.69 0.10 Weight 66.39 15.72 69.05 13.77 Health problems 0.68 0.49 0.59 0.35 t or Variable [chi square] p Sexual activity Age first sex 6.64 < 0.001 Total partners 19.27 < 0.001 Sex frequency 18.19 < 0.001 Demographics Age 1.99 = .015 Gender (% men) 15.30 < 0.001 Marital status (% non-single) 118.1 < 0.001 Education 9.56 < 0.001 Racelethnicity (% White) 39.31 < 0.001 SES 10.28 < 0.001 Religiosity Affiliation (%) 0.71 = .398 Attendance 2.80 = .006 Health/physical characteristics Menarche 3.44 = .001 Height 5.98 < 0.001 Weight 2.28 = .024 Health problems 3.34 < 0.001 Note. Total partners varies from 0 (no partners) to 5 (10 or more); sex frequency is the number of occasions in the last 7 days; education varies from 1 (none/no exams passed) to 5 (degree); SES varies from 1 (other) to 7 (professional); race/ethnicity refers to the percentage of participants who were White (versus non-White); religious affiliation refers to the percentage of participants who reported having an a religious affiliation; religious attendance refers to the frequency of attendance at religious services and varies from 0 (never) to 7 (once a week or more). Table 2. Logistic Regressions of Sexual Attraction (0 = sexual, 1 = asexual) in Women and Men, With All Predictors Entered Predictor B SE Wald p [e.sup.B] Women's analysis Age 0.02 0.01 5.53 = .019 1.02 SES -0.24 0.06 18.44 < .001 0.79 Education -0.28 0.09 11.01 < .001 0.75 Race/ethnicity 1.51 0.28 28.66 < .001 4.52 Health 0.31 0.24 1.66 ns 1.34 Height -3.06 1.36 5.06 = .024 0.05 Weight -0.00 0.01 0.19 ns 1.00 Menarche 0.18 0.06 9.82 = .002 1.20 Religiosity 0.09 0.04 6.37 = .012 1.09 Men's analysis Age -0.01 0.01 1.07 n.s 0.99 SES -0.37 0.09 16.62 < .001 1.27 Education -0.43 0.12 13.10 < .001 1.54 Race/ethnicity 0.66 0.47 2.02 ns 1.94 Health 0.43 0.36 1.46 ns 1.54 Height -3.20 1.89 2.87 = .09 0.41 Weight 0.01 0.01 0.31 ns 1.01 Religiosity 0.14 0.06 6.70 = .01 1.15 Note. Education varies from 1 (none/no exams passed) to 5 (degree); SES varies from 1 (other) to 7 (professional); race/ethnicity is 0 = White and 1 = non-White; religiosity refers to the frequency of attendance at religious services and varies from 0 = never to 7 = once a week or more; B represents the change in the logarithmic odds of asexuality for a one-unit increase in the corresponding predictor, with all other predictors in the model controlled for; SE is the standard error for each B; Wald statistic is the statistical quantity used to determine the significance level (p) of each predictor variable; [e.sup.B] is the multiplicative change in the odds of asexuality for a one-unit increase in the corresponding predictor. (1) Although they do not discuss asexuality per se, Johnson et al., (1994, see p. 187) do present a table showing the distribution of sexual attraction.

(2) This procedure assessed whether the proportion of gay men to asexual men was greater than .50 and whether the proportion of asexual women to lesbian women was greater than .50.

(3) Both lower SES and lower education were related to health problems in this sample (r = .142, p < .001 and r = .186, p < .001, respectively).

(4) To correct for differential response between regions and differential selection probabilities, I weighted the data using a weight suggested by Wellings et al. (1994). The results were very similar to the unweighted analyses.

(5) In additional logistic regression analyses, the participants who had been eliminated because of language, literacy, and interview problems were included and then these variables were controlled for (i.e., entered as simultaneous predictors) to see if the results would be affected. For example, I wanted to test the idea that perhaps one of the reasons low education (and low SES) relates to asexuality is that people with low education (and/or SES) may be more likely to misunderstand the question and thus indicate erroneously that they are asexual. However, after this test, all the relationships for both women and men remained significant, including education and SES (both ps < .001).

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This research was supported by a Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada Grant (#410-99-0521) to Anthony E Bogaert. The author wishes to thank Ray Blanchard, John Cairney, and Carolyn Hafer for their help at various stages of this research.

Address correspondence to Anthony E Bogaert. Ph.D., Department of Community Health Sciences, Department of Psychology, Brock University, St. Catharines, Canada, L2S 3A1; e-mail: tbogaert@....

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I also prefer masturbation, It relieves stress and is actually good for your body & well being. I do not like to engage in sexual encouters because nobody can please me like I can, and most of the guys I have been with are only concerned with getting them off. This has led me to the asexual community, I have the sexual desire, I just choose to be with me. It is less complicated and lotz more SATISFYING!!! If masturbating is considered "evil", then I guess I am going to hell.

I don't view it as any type of "evil". I think it's completely natural. I actually prefer it.

hi

I understand this is maybe a too personnal question, but anyway, after all this list is for setting forth our personnals

So, asexuals don't like sex. What about masturbations? Do you consider it an 'asexual' alternative to intercourse? Do you hate it as well as sex? do you do it sometimes as a necessary evil?

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Hi All, I'm not new to this group, yet I relate. I'm 49, never married because I knew I couldn't perform so to speak. I know that sounds odd from a woman and yet this is what is expected in a marriage.

The harshest loss for me is not having children. Of course lack of companionship is pretty rough too.

Northern California Jen

Yeah...I'm new too, or at least I've been semi-lurking forever. From Northern Cali, nearly 30. I've pretty much given up on relationships because of the whole sexual aspect. Hell, I've pretty much given up on forming any sort of friendship with anyone that's sexually oriented towards females because I hate it when what could have been (or was) a beautiful friendship gets torn to pieces by the other person wanting to make it more....and I've never really perfected the "lets just be friends" speech..lol. It just kills to lose people like that...hopefully it'll happen less as I get older and wrinkled and therefor presumedly less desirable ;)

Cat

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Hi Ted, I sure hope you are able to gain the companionship you seek. I haven't found it yet. Gee, it is such a long search for Asexual people.

Northern California 49 Jen

Hope to find some "oldsters" here to communicate with along with the youngsters. I'm not age bias, I tend to love people in general....diversity is essential to round a person out I think.

I'm one of the older ones; I'm 47. Some of my background: I've never been married or anything like that. I've dated over the years, but it's always ended up platonic; I've just never been interested in initiating anything sexual.

Last year I found out about various groups for asexuals, and it was a revelation to me; THIS is what I am. So recently I've been looking on dating services and so on, specifying right at the beginning that I'm only interested in platonic dating, to see who I could find for the kind of non-sexual companionship I would like. I met a few women, nothing continuing has come of it yet, but I'm still trying and hopeful.

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Hey Jen, What part of Nor Cal? I'm in Humboldt. It might be nice to have someone local to commiserate with :)

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Hi All, I'm not new to this group, yet I relate. I'm 49, never married because I knew I couldn't perform so to speak. I know that sounds odd from a woman and yet this is what is expected in a marriage.

The harshest loss for me is not having children. Of course lack of companionship is pretty rough too.

Northern California Jen

Yeah...I'm new too, or at least I've been semi-lurking forever. >From Northern Cali, nearly 30. I've pretty much given up on relationships because of the whole sexual aspect. Hell, I've pretty much given up on forming any sort of friendship with anyone that's sexually oriented towards females because I hate it when what could have been (or was) a beautiful friendship gets torn to pieces by the other person wanting to make it more....and I've never really perfected the "lets just be friends" speech..lol. It just kills to lose people like that...hopefully it'll happen less as I get older and wrinkled and therefor presumedly less desirable ;)

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Thank you all for the kind welcome.....does anyone ever get into the chat room here? (Not that I have alot of time to chat....work, work, work) So nice that chat is part of this group site....I think it would be nice sometime when we are all available (maybe on a weekend eveing) to be able to chit and chat in real time?

Again, thanks for the welcome all. So glad I found you all. And glad to find there are other "oldsters" here too....yippie.

Hi Ted, I sure hope you are able to gain the companionship you seek. I haven't found it yet. Gee, it is such a long search for Asexual people.

Wouldn't it be neat to hold some kind of social gathering for asexuals? Like an annual retreat or something (similar to the one I coordinate each year for autistic people)? Not just for people seeking partners, but just to be able to spend time meeting lots of different people, having fun, and maybe making some friends, and knowing that nobody you meet there is going to end up wanting sex?

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Now THERE'S an event I'd love to attend! Perhaps there's someone either here or over at AVEN who's up to the task. (and maybe I'll get lucky and it'll be in the NY metro area)

What an excellent idea!

~Kt.

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Wouldn't it be neat to hold some kind of social gathering for asexuals? Like an annual retreat or something (similar to the one I coordinate each year for autistic people)? Not just for people seeking partners, but just to be able to spend time meeting lots of different people, having fun, and maybe making some friends, and knowing that nobody you meet there is going to end up wanting sex?