Haven for the Human Amoeba

Whew!!! That's a really long user name! :) Welcome to the club..

Hey there!! I just joined and I wanted to say how much of a relief it is to find this group. I've thought for a long time that I was one of few people who feel this way about intimate relationships. I'm 19 and I've just moved to Boston to go to college. As I 've been told and noticed college is dripping with sexual energy. Its not so much that I can't deal with it I just don't want to. And when you're surrounded by people who don't understand that you feel about 2 inches tall. I find it very hard to get that close to people and be that intimate simply because I don't desire it but I do like having close friends to rely on. To whoever started this club thanks a bunch. I'm proud to call myself an amoeba.

Welcome to the group!

I'm not too far from Boston, up in New Hampshire. Where did you move there from? Which college are you going to? My uncle is going to Wentworth, not that that matters much. How are you liking Boston?

I chose not to go to college, and that's one of the many reasons why. I also wasn't interested in getting a degree in something I would never use (I'm a writer, and I really don't want to force myself to write. that ruins the whole experience). I'm also very territorial and suspicious of people I don't know well. It's not that I'm paranoid, but I literally do not think I could sleep with a stranger in the same room, at least for the first month or so.

Anyway, I'm 20, an author, and if you want to talk about the area you can reach me at reviewgal@...

Liz

Hey there!! I just joined and I wanted to say how much of a relief it is to find this group. I've thought for a long time that I was one of few people who feel this way about intimate relationships. I'm 19 and I've just moved to Boston to go to college. As I 've been told and noticed college is dripping with sexual energy. Its not so much that I can't deal with it I just don't want to. And when you're surrounded by people who don't understand that you feel about 2 inches tall. I find it very hard to get that close to people and be that intimate simply because I don't desire it but I do like having close friends to rely on. To whoever started this club thanks a bunch. I'm proud to call myself an amoeba.

<< So I suppose, in that light, one could view themselves as being entirely "normal." >>

Absolutely, I consider myself abnormal for other reasons, but not for that.

I think it's hypocrisy to say "I'm asexual and normal to the world": come on! We're a very ultra small minority!

I tend to stay away from discussing the label of normality, as it is too subjective, and really doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things. Ultra small minorities and mass demographics alike can be just as normal or unique, all depending upon how you choose to look at things, and where you look.

As an aside, I would be a little disturbed by a boss that just walked up and asked those sorts of questions of me. It really isn't any of his/her business. I would probably just say, "sure," and change the topic -- since I really do not have anything against women, that wouldn't be lying. :)

- Do you use to go to a bar with your co-workers after a work day?

No, but my case isn't "normal." All of my co-workers are extremely religious and wouldn't be seen in a bar after work, or even on the weekends. I generally do not hang out with them. However, in the spirit of the question, I do occasionally go out with people whom I have a more than passing acquaintance with.

- If so, do they tend to come up with sexuality subjects?

Not really, but then it is rather hard to have any conversation at all when there is 103 decibel industrial music going on. Ahem, in the spirit of the question again -- in the past it came up more, especially when I was in college, but that is only "natural" I presume. After their hormones all settled down, it really didn't come up as much.

In general, I really don't have to face "being an asexual" all that much. This is because I know what I am now. Before I didn't know such a thing was a possibility really, I was young, and trying to somehow fit in in my individualistic way -- trying to date, trying to do the "normal" thing, and it never worked. So back then, even though I didn't know that I was an asexual, I was faced with the issue more often because I placed myself into situations that made me uncomfortable. Now that I am aware, I simply do not try, and it rarely if ever comes up. So I suppose, in that light, one could view themselves as being entirely "normal." There is no unreasonable friction between them and the rest of the world -- life goes on.

The friends I have, though I haven't told them about this facet of myself, seem to respect the fact that I do not have any interest in dating. I am fortunate, I suppose.

-Ioa

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Amy, how interesting! I am heavily considering expat, myself. I already have plans to move to London later this year, which I plan to use as a stepping stone into Europe, or if I like it there, I'll just stay there.

I have been learning German, so that is a possibility, too.

If you have the time, I'd love to hear your experiences with the process, your motivations, tips and tricks, any other wisdom you might have to depart, just contact me via email if you wish, since it isn't exactly on topic here.

I've visited Brazil before, lovely country. Unfortunately I only got to see the massively urban Sao Paulo, interesting in itself, but I wished to see more!

Ioa

Hi Ioa, Sure, I'd be happy to tell you about my experiences moving to Brazil, etc. You can e-mail me at ahdbiz @ yahoo.com (leave out the spaces) with any questions you might have.

Amy

<< I'm not some incredibly repressed lesbian >>

^^ You don't have to be sexually driven to be a lesbian. I consider myself an asexual lesbian. I've tried several gay groups but I usually don't get along with people.

So, I'm curious, have any of you been to those sorts of groups? Maybe it's simply because I'm young and not entirely sure that I'm not some incredibly repressed lesbian (something I'm strangely paranoid about), but have taken an interest in at least checking such organizations out. Am I really weird or have others here done this as well. Peas and carrots, --Nothing

Like I said before I just started college. The first week here I got info about the LGBTQ group here. I did go to their first meeting just because I was curious as to what they were about. I also went because although I have joined this group I am still very open to my sexuality changing at any moment that and I am all for the equal rights for people of all sexualities. I have a lot of friends who are gay or bisexual and I like to support them. You're not strange at all.

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I agree I don't think you have to be sexual to be a lesbian. But the great thing about a group like this is being the positions we're in we can understand how any sexual stand is possible.

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i consider myself as an asexual lesbian as well. i get along with GLBTQ people very well, i am some kinda of lesbian to start with they just wonder why i am not interested in sex they all think i will grow out of it (i am still kinda young)

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I agree I don't think you have to be sexual to be a lesbian. But the great thing about a group like this is being the positions we're in we can understand how any sexual stand is possible.

I joined my campus glbt club at the begining of this semester, but haven't gone to any of the meetings yet (I will be going tonight). I joined because I saw asexuality in the description, but I have a feeling I might be the only asexual. The topics in the message board has been sexual like AIDS awareness, safe sex, and 'kiss-ins', things I can't really relate to. But they seem like a nice community, and I hope to make some friends.

So, I'm curious, have any of you been to those sorts of groups? Maybe it's simply because I'm young and not entirely sure that I'm not some incredibly repressed lesbian (something I'm strangely paranoid about), but have taken an interest in at least checking such organizations out. Am I really weird or have others here done this as well. Peas and carrots, --Nothing

I've had a very good experience working with my LGBTTQQFI (and now A) group. It's been a good community to be involved in, helped me tobetter understand my sexuality and given me a platform to do asexual visibility stuff on and off of my campus. It can be tricky at first, but I think that it's worth it.. -DJ

LGBTTQQFI - I know what the first four letters stand for, but what about the last four? thanx! :o)

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LGBTTQQFI - I know what the first four letters stand for, but what about the last four? thanx! :o)

Ooh I want to guess...

Lesbian Gay Bi Transgender Transsexual Queer Questioning Friends Intersex

right?

I've also seen:

Straight Allies and 'Other'

and I'd like to see:

Asexual

Nat :)

Sorry, the acronym keeps getting bigger as more identities make themselves known on campus, such that the catch-all (but not really, as it's political and not identity-based) term "queer" is generally used for most things. The list is: lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transexual, queer, questioning, flexual, intersexual. The BDSM (bondage/domination,sadism/massochism) and polyamorous people are also involved in the mix, though not quite as directly.

LGBTTQQFI - I know what the first four letters stand for, but what about the last four? thanx! :o)

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