Haven for the Human Amoeba

I tend to go back and forth between INTP and ISTP.

lisettelisapisa said:

Hello. I'm an asexual female who joined this group to learn about other people's experiences (or should I say lack of experiences, hee hee). Sorry, bad joke. What I was wondering is if anyone has done personality typing, specifically the Myers-Briggs (MBTI), and, if so, what was the result? I am an INFP/INTP hybrid. I am trying to find out if personality type correlates with asexuality.

Hello,

Your story is very much like mine, im a 31 year old woman, nice looking, getting lots of attention from the right guys, like romance but am not very interested in sex, frankly I get more turned on from buying a lovely old book or new cd... The main problem is that sex is made much more important in this society then it really is. Many people have no or not much interest in sex but believe what society dictates and therefor have sex and pretend to find it important or even believe it themself. In olden days it was much more accepted for people not to have sex for a long time, or even never. Perhaps one day if we are at the right place with the right person we might be interested in trying the old sex thing, perhaps not. I just have never felt comfortable enough and when you get older it seems more likely I never will, afterall how do you bring up youre still a virgin at our age? Perhaps I should fake being religious... ;) At least then I would have a excuse... Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)

Adrienne

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

The Heart of A Woman

By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his Sixth day of working overtime. An Angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered and said, "Have you seen the spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have 200 movable parts, all replaceable, run on black coffee and leftovers, have a lap that can hold two children at one time and that disappears when she stands up, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart, and have six pairs of hands."

The Angel was astounded at the requirements for this one. "Six pairs of hands! No Way!" said the Angel.

The Lord replied, "Oh, it's not the hands that are the problem. It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers must have! And that's just on the standard model?"

The Angel asked about the three pairs of eyes.

The Lord nodded. "Yep, one pair of eyes are to see through the closed door as she asks her children what they are doing even though she already knows. Another pair in the back of her head are to see what she needs to know even though no one thinks she can. And the third pair are here in the front of her head. They are for looking at an errant child and saying that she understands and loves him or her without even saying a single word.

" The Angel tried to stop the Lord. "This is too much work for one day, wait until tomorrow to finish."

"But I can't!" The Lord protested, "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can feed a family on a pound of hamburger and can get a nine year old to stand in the shower."

The Angel moved closer and touched the woman, "But you have made her so soft, Lord."

"She is soft," The Lord agreed, "but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."

"Will she be able to think?" asked the Angel.

The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to reason and negotiate."

The Angel then noticed something and reached out and touched the woman's cheek. "Oops, it looks like you have a leak with this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one."

"That's not a leak," The Lord objected, "That's a tear!"

"What's the tear for?" the Angel asked.

The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her loneliness, her grief, and her pride."

The Angel was impressed. "You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything, for women are truly amazing." Women have strengths that amaze men. They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous. They fight for what they believe in. They stand up for injustice. They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution. They go without new shoes so their children can have them. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes. They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin! Women do more than give birth. They bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals. Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.

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I am a 27 years old guy, also with a similar story, good looking, and very deep in romance, I think I was born in a different time or place, I like all the old ways and I am not very interested in sex either, I have been pressure from girls to have sex with them and it was more to pleasure them than myself, maybe someday I might find ms right.

alex

Hello,

Your story is very much like mine, im a 31 year old woman, nice looking, getting lots of attention from the right guys, like romance but am not very interested in sex, frankly I get more turned on from buying a lovely old book or new cd... The main problem is that sex is made much more important in this society then it really is. Many people have no or not much interest in sex but believe what society dictates and therefor have sex and pretend to find it important or even believe it themself. In olden days it was much more accepted for people not to have sex for a long time, or even never. Perhaps one day if we are at the right place with the right person we might be interested in trying the old sex thing, perhaps not. I just have never felt comfortable enough and when you get older it seems more likely I never will, afterall how do you bring up youre still a virgin at our age? Perhaps I should fake being religious... ;) At least then I would have a excuse... Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)

Adrienne

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

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This is for the question, Is there an Extroverted Asexual? And I am here to say YES! There is! And I am one of them. I love being in large groups of people. Socializing at least 4 days per week. I hve lots of friends and always have room and time to meet more but sadly have a barely there sex drive. Men clammer around attracted to my extroverted energy and in my mind I think, "If you only knew the truth.." I never take anyone home. I never date. It's strange I know...

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I'm almost as introverted as can be without being completely hermited... I don't know I've ever come across an extroverted asexual. It would be bothersome to find out that all of socialization is about getting sex... so I hope there's some to prove me wrong.

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Hi there

I am an INFJ.

Shel :o)

lisettelisapisa said:

Hello. I'm an asexual female who joined this group to learn about other people's experiences (or should I say lack of experiences, hee hee). Sorry, bad joke. What I was wondering is if anyone has done personality typing, specifically the Myers-Briggs (MBTI), and, if so, what was the result? I am an INFP/INTP hybrid. I am trying to find out if personality type correlates with asexuality.

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How do I know???

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

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drksparkle

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Re: MBTI

I tend to go back and forth between INTP and ISTP.

lisettelisapisa said:

Hello. I'm an asexual female who joined this group to learn about other people's experiences (or should I say lack of experiences, hee hee). Sorry, bad joke. What I was wondering is if anyone has done personality typing, specifically the Myers-Briggs (MBTI), and, if so, what was the result? I am an INFP/INTP hybrid. I am trying to find out if personality type correlates with asexuality.

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The Heart of A Woman

The Heart of A Woman

By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his Sixth day of working overtime. An Angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered and said, "Have you seen the spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have 200 movable parts, all replaceable, run on black coffee and leftovers, have a lap that can hold two children at one time and that disappears when she stands up, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart, and have six pairs of hands."

The Angel was astounded at the requirements for this one. "Six pairs of hands! No Way!" said the Angel.

The Lord replied, "Oh, it's not the hands that are the problem. It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers must have! And that's just on the standard model?"

The Angel asked about the three pairs of eyes.

The Lord nodded. "Yep, one pair of eyes are to see through the closed door as she asks her children what === message truncated ===

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This is hilarious -- let me know your new name!! This only takes a minute and its fun.

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Follow the instructions to find your new name.

The following is an excerpt from a children's book, "Captain Underpants and the Perilous Plot of Professor Poopypants" by Dave Pilkey. The evil Professor forces everyone to assume new names.

Use the third letter of your first name to determine your new first name:

a = poopsie

b = lumpy

c = buttercup

d = gidget

e = crusty

f = greasy

g = fluffy

h = cheeseball

i = chim-chim

j = stinky

k = flunky

l = boobie

m = pinky

n = zippy

o = goober

p = doofus

q = slimy

r = loopy

s = snotty

t = tootie

u = dorkey

v = squeezit

w = oprah

x = skipper

y = dinky

z = zsa-zsa

Use the second letter of your last name to determine the first half of your new last name:

a = apple

b = toilet

c = giggle

d = burger

e = girdle

f = barf

g = lizard

h = waffle

i = cootie

j = monkey

k = potty

l = liver

m = banana

n = rhino

o = bubble

p = hamster

q = toad

r = gizzard

s = pizza

t = gerbil

u = chicken

v = pickle

w = chuckle

x = tofu

y = gorilla

z = stinker

Use the fourth letter of your last name to determine the second half of your new last name:

a = head

b = mouth

c = face

d = nose

e = tush

f = breath

g = pants

h = shorts

i = lips

j = honker

k = butt

l = brain

m = tushie

n = chunks

o = hiney

p = biscuits

q = toes

r = buns

s = fanny

t = sniffer

u = sprinkles

v = kisser

w = squirt

x = humperdinck

y = brains

z = juice

Thus, for example, George W.. Bush's new name is Goober Chickenshorts.

Mine is Zippy Bubble-Brain.

Jen

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Buttercup Banana Chunks

You are the one who knows for sure. As for how your virginity happened, what that means is that you're sure of what you want and that you don't want to just hand yourself over to just any guy. You might just be looking for the right guy - but wanting a baby is a much stronger longing than any sex drive.

How did *I* know I'm an amoeba? Just that I don't experience any kind of sexual attraction and am nowhere near going out to look for Mr (or Ms) Right. I don't want a sexual relationship and at the moment I'm convinced it's not possible to HAVE an asexual relationship with a sexual person of the opposite gender.

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

My wife has a much dimished interest in sex and as a result we have sex only about 3 or 4 times a year. Thus, I find my penis and testicles to be much more of a bother than a convenience. I have no practical purpose for them.

You are the one who knows for sure. As for how your virginity happened, what that means is that you're sure of what you want and that you don't want to just hand yourself over to just any guy. You might just be looking for the right guy - but wanting a baby is a much stronger longing than any sex drive.

How did *I* know I'm an amoeba? Just that I don't experience any kind of sexual attraction and am nowhere near going out to look for Mr (or Ms) Right. I don't want a sexual relationship and at the moment I'm convinced it's not possible to HAVE an asexual relationship with a sexual person of the opposite gender.

frajolam said:

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

I don't want a sexual relationship and at the moment I'm convinced it's not possible to HAVE an asexual relationship with a sexual person of the opposite gender.

Well, not a fair one maybe. I'm fairly convinced that on my father's side, my grandmother had such a relationship with my grandfather after a certain period in their marriage, and the same seems to have happened to my father with my mom as well. If so, my father seems to be dealing with it by absorbing himself in hobbies and outdoor activities. I know my grandfather had a mistress as he once introduced me to her. (She seemed like a nice person, BTW.) This didn't stop either man from fathering several children by their wives.

Therese Shellabarger / The Roving Reporter - Civis Mundi tlshell@... / http://tlshell.cnc.net/

By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his Sixth day of working overtime.

Stories like this just make me sad because I'm convinced that men can be just as nurturing if given half the chance, and I know darn well that not all people of either gender have nurturing characteristics.

Therese Shellabarger / The Roving Reporter - Civis Mundi tlshell@... / http://tlshell.cnc.net/

The following is an excerpt from a children's book, "Captain Underpants and the Perilous Plot of Professor Poopypants" by Dave Pilkey. The evil Professor forces everyone to assume new names.

Well, let's see, this sounds like fun...

I would be Crusty Wafflebrain

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On 20 Dec 2002, 21:14 +00:00, jmnoble@b... said:

The following is an excerpt from a children's book, "Captain Underpants and the Perilous Plot of Professor Poopypants" by Dave Pilkey. The evil Professor forces everyone to assume new names.

Well, let's see, this sounds like fun...

I would be Crusty Wafflebrain

Crusty Gerbil-breath.

"Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)"

YESSSS!!! How nice would that be???

Yes, you said it all... the older you are the more unlikely to have sex for the first time... even if I suddnely had a huge sex drive how could I tell him I'm still a virgin???

I'm still trying to figure out what's wrong with me - and IF there is something wrong with me... but it's very hard with this huge pressure of society to get a partner RIGHT NOW... it's like the world was made for couples, if you are single so there's something wrong with YOU... and even worse, if you don't show a crazy interest in sex, oh my God... so there's DEFINETELY something wrong with you!

Sigh...

Hello,

Your story is very much like mine, im a 31 year old woman, nice looking, getting lots of attention from the right guys, like romance but am not very interested in sex, frankly I get more turned on from buying a lovely old book or new cd... The main problem is that sex is made much more important in this society then it really is. Many people have no or not much interest in sex but believe what society dictates and therefor have sex and pretend to find it important or even believe it themself. In olden days it was much more accepted for people not to have sex for a long time, or even never. Perhaps one day if we are at the right place with the right person we might be interested in trying the old sex thing, perhaps not. I just have never felt comfortable enough and when you get older it seems more likely I never will, afterall how do you bring up youre still a virgin at our age? Perhaps I should fake being religious... ;) At least then I would have a excuse... Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)

Adrienne

frajolam said:

Hi,

I'm not sure if I'm in the right group... I', 32 years old, female, and I'm a virgin... I don't know how that happened, I'm not religious and I don't have any moral issues with sexuality. I live now in Canada but I am from a very liberal south american country, where women can get sex whenever they want.

I never thought of myself as an assesxual person, I want somebody in my life and I always dreamt with a baby in the future... I'm very good looking and have/had a lot of friends here in Canada and in my native country. But for some reason I never had sex, and never felt the HUGE desire of having sex like - it seems - everybody else does.

So, I don't know if I just didn't have the opportunity of having sex, if I just didn't find "Mr. Right" yet, or if I really don't have any sexual drive... How do you know if you are an amoeba??? What does that really mean??? All my friends are couples and the pressure of having somebody in my life is HUGE and it's something that I would like to have but the truth is nobody interests me... and I'm not picky or choosy, but I just don't feel attracted to anybody.

Some advice???

Can you cry under water?

How important does a person have to be before they are considered assassinated instead of just murdered?

If money doesn't grow on trees then why do banks have branches?

Since bread is square, then why is sandwich meat round?

Why do you have to "put your two cents in"...but it's only a "penny" for your thoughts"? Where's that extra penny going to?

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There's a store that is going out of business and selling their CD music for 80 and 90 % off. Please tell me what your favorite music style, songs, CD names and artists are.

I do not listen to music so I don't know what is a good thing to buy.

Don't worry about my taste being different. I have relatives of all ages that I could buy a nice gift for very little money.

Thanks so much, Jen

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Bach! Bach! Bach! :-)

There's a store that is going out of business and selling their CD music for 80 and 90 % off. Please tell me what your favorite music style, songs, CD names and artists are.

I do not listen to music so I don't know what is a good thing to buy.

Don't worry about my taste being different. I have relatives of all ages that I could buy a nice gift for very little money.

Thanks so much, Jen

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Gelf, I am not an introvert. I am an Asexual lesbian. I do NOT want anything to do with sex at all. I do not want to kiss either. I don't care for sexualized scenes 99% of the time. I do prefer the company of women. I relaxed best with other women. In the past when I knew gay men I did enjoy them very much and I believe part of the reason was they were not attempting to date me and they did not have a need to put on a sickening act of how intensely macho they were. They allowed both themselves and me to be comfortable visiting and laughing.

Jen

I'm almost as introverted as can be without being completely hermited... I don't know I've ever come across an extroverted asexual. It would be bothersome to find out that all of socialization is about getting sex... so I hope there's some to prove me wrong.

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Adrienne, this is a beautiful dream and I would love it to be fulfilled. I am not joking.

Jen

Hello,

Your story is very much like mine, im a 31 year old woman, nice looking, getting lots of attention from the right guys, like romance but am not very interested in sex, frankly I get more turned on from buying a lovely old book or new cd... The main problem is that sex is made much more important in this society then it really is. Many people have no or not much interest in sex but believe what society dictates and therefor have sex and pretend to find it important or even believe it themself. In olden days it was much more accepted for people not to have sex for a long time, or even never. Perhaps one day if we are at the right place with the right person we might be interested in trying the old sex thing, perhaps not. I just have never felt comfortable enough and when you get older it seems more likely I never will, afterall how do you bring up youre still a virgin at our age? Perhaps I should fake being religious... ;) At least then I would have a excuse... Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)

Adrienne

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Dear No One, I am not nearly as extroverted as you are. When I was in my 20's I was though. I have changed a lot over the years. I am now OLD. LOL I am now 47 years old. My favorite thing to do is laugh. My gosh humor is my biggest turn on. In the past I went to gay bars both for men and women. It was truly funny cuz many of the gay men told me they felt confused with me cuz they were just too comfortable and feeling attracted and could I just change my gender. This made us laugh but it spoke to how comfortable we were with one another. I could dance my buns off with a man and not feel uncomfortable. The Lesbians were another story. Oh geeze, did they ever want to take me home or come to my place. This just was not happening no matter how friendly they could ever be or polite or gentleman like or the proper lady. I just wanted to dance, socialize, laugh and have a great time. I was slim, trim and full of life but not interested in what I call bumping uglies.

Now that I am an old bag of almost 50 I don't go out dancing and I don't have tolerances for the things I did as a young person. I like things much more quiet and sedate than I did 20 years ago. I do like and NEED time alone or quiet time yet I also love being with another person too. So I prefer, want and need both.

Jen

This is for the question, Is there an Extroverted Asexual? And I am here to say YES! There is! And I am one of them. I love being in large groups of people. Socializing at least 4 days per week. I hve lots of friends and always have room and time to meet more but sadly have a barely there sex drive. Men clammer around attracted to my extroverted energy and in my mind I think, "If you only knew the truth.." I never take anyone home. I never date. It's strange I know...

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Cijay, my gosh you are so very right. Those sex loving people just can't live without it and can be very pushy.

I always wondered what the heck was wrong with me for most of my life and the truth is there is NOTHING wrong with me. I just don't feel like pulling my pants down and bumping uglies. I can't seem to find others to socialize with in town who feel and live the same way.

Jen

You are the one who knows for sure. As for how your virginity happened, what that means is that you're sure of what you want and that you don't want to just hand yourself over to just any guy. You might just be looking for the right guy - but wanting a baby is a much stronger longing than any sex drive.

How did *I* know I'm an amoeba? Just that I don't experience any kind of sexual attraction and am nowhere near going out to look for Mr (or Ms) Right. I don't want a sexual relationship and at the moment I'm convinced it's not possible to HAVE an asexual relationship with a sexual person of the opposite gender.

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Since bread is square, then why is sandwich meat round?

Hey, some *is* square. If you don't believe me, go to the store and look! And the cheese is square too!

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A bigger question is why there is a mismatch between the number of wieners in a package and the number of hot dog buns!!! A conspiracy perhaps? Even the vegetarian dogs are the wrong number!

Therese Shellabarger / The Roving Reporter - Civis Mundi tlshell@... / http://tlshell.cnc.net/

Therese, you had some very cute answers that also gave me a bit of a laugh.

Thanks, Jen

Since bread is square, then why is sandwich meat round?

Hey, some *is* square. If you don't believe me, go to the store and look! And the cheese is square too!

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A bigger question is why there is a mismatch between the number of wieners in a package and the number of hot dog buns!!! A conspiracy perhaps? Even the vegetarian dogs are the wrong number!

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Dear frajolam, you are so very right. This society is made for SEX COUPLES and it seems those of us who do not fit the TWO are considered many things that are not pleasant or acceptable. By the way you might be accused or asked repeatedly if you are a lesbian simply because you are not dating a man, expressing the desire to date a man and surely not rolling around in bed with one. I am not suggesting lesbianism is negative but much of the world does think this when they are not expressing themselves as politically correct.

Look around and see how along you can be as you age and do not marry or have children. I say this from my own experience. I wish I did have children and now I cannot due to menopause. This really makes me very sad.

There are people who most prefer to be alone most of the time. I am not one who wants to be alone most of the time. I do need a lot of alone time but I do not take any pleasure in being single. In the past this didn't bother me in the least. It seems I have been changing a lot as I age. It seems to just be my natural process of aging where someone else may have a different process.

An example is that when I was much younger I was a true extrovert. I am more of an introvert now.

I just took this online test and was surprised to get the results of being 68% introverted. Also, I noticed prior to the results that I experienced major changes. I just assumed I was much more extroverted than I am now.

Jen

"Wouldnt it be fab to find a male amoeba to have a relationship with? Be a couple, go out, date, be social and have all your friends shut up about becoming a old spinster ;)"

YESSSS!!! How nice would that be???

Yes, you said it all... the older you are the more unlikely to have sex for the first time... even if I suddnely had a huge sex drive how could I tell him I'm still a virgin???

I'm still trying to figure out what's wrong with me - and IF there is something wrong with me... but it's very hard with this huge pressure of society to get a partner RIGHT NOW... it's like the world was made for couples, if you are single so there's something wrong with YOU... and even worse, if you don't show a crazy interest in sex, oh my God... so there's DEFINETELY something wrong with you!

Sigh...

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There's a store that is going out of business and selling their CD music for 80 and 90 % off. Please tell me what your favorite music style, songs, CD names and artists are.

??? Sounds like a great deal? Personally I like folk music of the British Isles (Wales, Ireland, Scotland), international jazz, new age music, Afro-Cuban rhythms, female country artists of the 60's, minimalism, classical, Philip Glass, The Beetles, etc.

I'll listen to almost anything particularly if it's pure music with no singing as I'm kind of an eclectic listener but at the moment I'm not into acid rock because I don't care for the screaming. (-;

This year I asked my parents for a Sony CD Walkman so this might be a good time to get additional music. If they don't, I'll buy it for myself anyway.

BTW, my website is off the air until Dec. 27, as my bandwidth quota was used up. (I'm surprised, as I don't remember it ever happening before!)

Therese Shellabarger / The Roving Reporter - Civis Mundi tlshell@... / http://tlshell.cnc.net/