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1. Name/age: Susan / 55

2. Gender: female

3. Race: White

4. Geographic Location: South Central Texas

5. Have you ever had sex? Yes, too often.

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I'm emotionally more attracted to males.

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? with friends, but they tend to think there is something wrong with me. I, personally, think there is something wrong with them.

8. Are you married? No. I have been married twice.

And if not, do you ever want to get married? Not again unless I can find a gentleman who understands that I DON'T NEED sex.

Do you crave non-sexual romance? Somewhat. I have been divorced for 18 years, so I do okay as a loner.

9. Do you have or want children? I have three, but would not do it. My maternal instincts are not real strong.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Not much. I come from a non-touching family.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? No. I just wish others weren't bothered by the fact that I don't have an interest in sex.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I have dated a little recently, but same old thing. The sex has to get in the way and I think I am going to have to break it off. I don't get it. He can't perform, but still insists just messing around is fun and that I need it. Wrong!!!!!!!!!!

Do you like to kiss? Not really.

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? I don't think my meds have that side effect. Psychologically, probably. I personally cannot stand the smell of sex or someone else's body oils on my sheets. Gross!!! My dog sleeping on my bed is okay, though.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? Yes. By my older brother from before I can remember until about eleven and touched inappropriately by a man who owned the riding stables I loved to go to. Had to stop seeing my brother for many years and stop seeing the horse I loved.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I never felt comfortable with sex, but let me tell you, that didn't stop me from trying to please every man that way. I have called myself asexual for several years as my friends laugh and try to convince me sex is "just part of it". Nope

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1. Name/age: Susan/55 2. Gender: Female

3. Race:White 4. Geographic Location: South Central Texas> > 5. Have you ever had sex? yes

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I enjoy admiring nice bodies of either gender, but I am not sexually attracted to either. 7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? To some. I hope to become more open now that I have found out I am not "not normal". I have used the term "asexual" jokingly referring to me with friends. They say I am too young not to enjoy sex. What's to enjoy?

8. Are you married? Divorced for 18 years.

And if not, do you ever want to get married? Maybe. I would like to have a companion, male or female, with no sex. Do you crave non-sexual romance? Crave? No. It would be nice on occasion to have someone to share everyday happenings with.

9. Do you have or want children? I already have 3 grown children.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Not much. I was raised in a family that showed no emotion, especially, touching.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? Not at all. I just wish I could convince others to not be bothered by it and to stop trying to fix me.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I haven't dated much in recent years. Lately, a couple of dates, but they always end up with sex being the issue. I have told this gentleman I am not interested, so don't worry that he is impotent, but he still wants to "make me happy". Then leave me alone!!

Do you like to kiss? It is okay, but I don't have to kiss.

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No. I just think sex smells nasty and I don't want someone else's body oils on my sheets. My olfactories are offended by sex. Basically, sex stinks!

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? Yes. My older brother from before I can remember and the man who owned the riding stables. Let him fondle you and you get to ride free.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I never liked sex, but I realize now that it is perfectly okay for me to not want to engage in sex. I think after seeing how many people feel the same as I do, it makes me feel "other people" are different. Now, I hope to empower myself enough to tell others, when the subject comes up, that I am "ASEXUAL" and explain it to them.

Hiya,

I was wondering if there were any members here from the UK?

Yeah, I'm from the UK. Bradford West Yorkshire. :)

Hiya,

I was wondering if there were any members here from the UK?

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Hiya,

I was wondering if there were any members here from the UK?

yeah. I have to say I think there are sexual connections in spirit interactions too. I think there are whole groups of folks who call that Tantric. I don't know so much about all of that. But I can say some imaginary partners feel more "real" than others.

I do know that I feel deeper connections with some people, and others... I am just staring across the table at their body and talking to them. Some people I meet for two minutes and feel a desire to keep in touch and make friends with them for years. Others I can know for years and I still have trouble remembering their name.

I do not think this feeling of connection is necessarily connected to sexual touch. I meet people who love to get their rub on but can't even perceive another human being. And I meet people I have platonic relationships with and they are some of my most important adult lifemates who challenge me to grow.

The Universe is a big place. Why wouldn't God's awareness wander about making friends, loving, laughing, and connecting? Why stereotype how all the flavors of love are "supposed" to manifest?

So does anyone have any favorite hobbies?

Nicole

****************** I am a Massage Therapist and Spiritual Minister, and LOVE this subject...lol. Watch out, don't get me started.

I feel very strongly that this type connection is like connecting with the "God" in others...we are all connected Spiritually and our "Souls" or internal energies can find each other and bond and interact. I have seen many amazing things, healings like "laying on of hands", someone being able to tell who is near them (from behind, blindfolded, with earplugs and white noise, and scent mask on), and someone relaying stories of visiting relatives while they were in a coma (the stories were true). Other stuff too.

I know we can connect this way...I've seen it, and done it myself.

There are many other ways to connect intimately besides sexually. Jen

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Hi. I have just found this site by chance and I am so pleasantly surprised to find a lot of people like myself. Here are my answers to the questionnaire by way of introduction.

1. Name/age: Marsha/55

2. Gender: Female

3. Race: Caucasian

4. Geographic Location: Deep South

5. Have you ever had sex? No

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I find myself attracted to kindness and open minds of either gender

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? No. It's too hard to explain to most people.

8. Are you married? And if not, do you ever want to get married? No, though I would not mind marriage to another asexual.Do you crave non-sexual romance? I don't crave it, but I would like to experience it.

9. Do you have or want children? No...I channel all of that into my pets.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? I would have preferred to be more average.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I gave up dating becaue no one understands why I don't want to have sex. Do you like to kiss? Perhaps.

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes. I tried a psychologist...didn't help.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? I have no memory of any abuse.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? In high school.

Dennis, I experienced suspicions of being a pedophile and a lesbian seeking to find a straight woman and change her. Well, neither is true. I've never married, never want sex and I don't understand the drive to desire bumping uglies either.

I'd like to adopt a child or 2 and I'd like a life companion without sex.

Anyway, as you can see this also effects women too.

Jen

Bumping uglies? Do you love Kim Harrison too? I agree with eveyhing you said.

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[Haven for the Human Amoeba] Singles don't get no respect.

There are a lot of unfair prejudices out there. The assumption that sex = love is only one of them. As a single guy, I have to put up with a ton of prejudices against single men. According to society, the only reason for a man to stay single is because he likes to molest little children and is a pedophile sex offender.

I've never done anything like that, but because I'm a single man, people look at me and treat me like I have. As long as they don't find out I'm single, they are ok with me, but as soon as the subject comes up, they pull their kids away from me.

The wife of a long time friend of mine called me up and demanded to know what I did with her daughter after she was overdue. Of course, I had nothing to do with her missing daughter and she eventually turned up safe and sound. That only goes to show you the level of this kind of prejudice.

My friend told me that I should start wearing a wedding band so I would get better respect. I don't, but I am still considering it.

I was wondering if any other guys out there have experienced this kind of prejudice?

Dennis.

On 4 Jul 2005, 07:27 +00:00, Debbie Search said:

Debra,

Take it from another Deborah, some guys never "get it" I dated one knuckle dragger who insisted that if sex wasn't involved, we weren't in a relationship. It's sad when people equate physical acts with emotions. I wish you luck.

Debbie

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1. Name/age: Marsha/55 2. Gender: Female

3. Race:Caucasian 4. Geographic Location: Deep South 5. Have you ever had sex? No

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I see beauty in both sexes. 7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? No. It's too hard to explain.

8. Are you married? No

And if not, do you ever want to get married? Perhaps, if I found some one who would understand my reservations about sex. Do you crave non-sexual romance? Crave? Yes & no. I want to feel close to some one.

9. Do you have or want children? No

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes, holding hands and kissing.> > 11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? No. It is a biological need for most people.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I can't find a date that doesn't expect a physical relationship.

Do you like to kiss? Yes.

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes. I went to a psychologist who told me that I was suppressing sexual abuse. I don't believe that.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? I have no memory of any incident.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? In high school when I never could get interested in boys.> > >

1. Name/age: Mary 63

2. Gender: Female

3. Race:Caucasian

4. Geographic Location: California

5. Have you ever had sex? No

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? male

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? ho one ever asks and I don't bring up the subject

8. Are you married? No And if not, do you ever want to get married? Perhaps, if I found some one who would understand my reservations about sex. Do you crave non-sexual romance? Crave? Yes & no.  I want to feel close to some one.

9. Do you have or want children? I am a single adoptive parent of a now grown daughter and it was the best decision I ever made

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes, of course I am a social creature

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? Sometimes

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I can't find a date that doesn't expect a physical relationship.

Do you like to kiss? depends

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? Not that i remember

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? Ir was a slow process. Probably in my young adulthood

Does anyone live in Boston, MA US?

Want to get a cup of coffee? Just looking for pals. I like music, bellydancing (not good at it yet), and going to parks. I'm happy to get together and knit, chat, hang out... I've been friends with people of all ages.

Female person, age 32... if you want my stats.

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Sorry Nicole, I'm at the opposite end of the country. Thanks for the offer though. We'll have to settle for a cyber cup of coffee. Mary 63

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Saturday, July 25, 2009, 11:32 AM Does anyone live in Boston, MA  US?

Want to get a cup of coffee?  Just looking for pals.  I like music, bellydancing (not good at it yet), and going to parks.  I'm happy to get together and knit, chat, hang out... I've been friends with people of all ages.

Female person, age 32...  if you want my stats.

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I live near Albany . Not the closest I know :(

Hello everyone, my name is Megan and I just joined the group. Im 25 years old and live in Southern California. I was looking around on the internet for celibacy groups but after a little reading Im wondering if I would be better categorized as asexual. I was wondering how a person might know for sure? Is it like a disease that can be diagnosed? Does my lack of sexual drive mean Im asexual? I have so many questions, and so far not many answers. If anyone could help me out or would just like to chat please feel free to respond.

1. Name/age: Megan 25

2. Gender: Female

3. Race:Caucasian/Hispanic

4. Geographic Location: California

5. Have you ever had sex? Yes

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? male

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? Yes, Im actually kinda proud that I don't have or desire sex

8. Are you married? No And if not, do you ever want to get married? I would love to be married but don't see how that is possible, I don't know many men that would like a wife that never has a desire for sex Do you crave non-sexual romance? Yes I want companionship

9. Do you have or want children? I have 1 child

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes I love platonic closeness with people

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? No I love the fact that I have no desire for sex

12. Do you date or desire companionship? I would like to date just for the companionship but don't want the sex that would most likely come with that.

Do you like to kiss? Umm Im not real keen on the idea

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No, are there test for that?

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? Not that Im aware of

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? It took awhile, Im 25 now and the total lack of sexual desire has only developed in the last year or so

I live in near Albany NY . Still a little far.

Looking to be friends.Can communicate through email or facebook or perhaps in person :))

1. Name/age:Angela/36

2. Gender: female

3. Race: Caucasian/hispanic

4. Geographic Location: Waltham MA

5. Have you ever had sex? no

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? neither, which is not to say I don't appreciate human beauty, I just don't find them sexually attractive.

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? yes and no. I don't go around advertising it, but if someone were to ask, or if it were to come up in a conversation, I have no shame in admitting my asexuality.

8. Are you married? no And if not, do you ever want to get married? no, not at this point in my life

Do you crave non-sexual romance? no, I'm perfectly happy with the few friends that I have.

9. Do you have or want children? I have a cat, does that count? [;)] I don't have children, and I don't want them.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? I don't mind an occasional hug, especially if I haven't seen that person in a long time.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? no

12. Do you date or desire companionship? i don't mind making friends, but anything beyond that, no.

Do you like to kiss? no

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? no, and I wouldn't even know how to go about doing that (a part of would like to know, if for no other reason then to make sure there isn't something seriously wrong)

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? no

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? 6th or 7th grade, while the other girls were discovering boys I was discovering comic books.

I live in Waltham. I have a bit of a crazy work schedule, but I certainly wouldn't mind meeting up for some coffee.

I'm a 36 year old female, and when I can find the time I like to do paper crafts, reading and writing. I also enjoy playing tourist.

angela

Does anyone live in Boston, MA US?

Want to get a cup of coffee? Just looking for pals. I like music, bellydancing (not good at it yet), and going to parks. I'm happy to get together and knit, chat, hang out... I've been friends with people of all ages.

Female person, age 32... if you want my stats.

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It's been a while since I had a pen pal, (and I really miss having one). So if you're still interested, feel free to contact me via private e-mail with your address and I'll do the same.

angela angelaumbrello@...

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Hey all I bet others have posted a 1000+ messages like this before - BUT IM SO HAPPY TO HAVE AN ASEXUAL COMMUNITY I DONT HAVE TO GO BROKE PAYING FOR! lol

When i use the word asexual, the look people give me is hilarious. Suffice to say, where I live - there isn't an asexual community at all. *sigh* i miss new york...

Hey people, just wanna get some opinions/comments/not sure what. I moved from NY to Madison, WI a year ago. Here comes the retarded sounding question, but I don't know how to phrase it better :(

Compared to the east, people are are far more reserved (not a good or a bad thing, they just ARE like that). Ive got into uncomfortable situations with many a woman because I can come across as too direct from their point of view (personally, I am quite toned down but meh).

This brings up the sexuality question; Im used to people being far more open (if I might say at times TOO open) about sex back in the east. I don't know what to make of the situation here - are they as eager for sex?

Why am I asking this question - because I don't know how they will react to me being asexual. I don't know how they judge that, or make of it. It doesn't really matter in the scheme of things but Im curious. It would help interact with the opposite sex a bit better if I know what their expectation is.

On Mon, Jul 27, 2009 at 3:06 PM, everythingmdc<everythingmdc@...> wrote:

I live in near Albany NY . Still a little far.

Hey, I live in Syracuse NY! :-)

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I'm hoping to move to Rochester in the next year or so... am currently in Southern California. How far away are Albany and Syracuse?

On Mon, Jul 27, 2009 at 3:06 PM, everythingmdc<everythingmdc@...> wrote:

I live in near Albany NY . Still a little far.

Hey, I live in Syracuse NY! :-)

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