Haven for the Human Amoeba

Honestly Mary I haven't been looking because it does seem that there aren't many men that feel the way we do. And I myself live in a very small town of about 2000 people so it is really hard to find anyone like me, that is why I was so happy to find the group. Patricia

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Hi, Patricia. I am Mary. I am 55 and I live in Texas, specifically Houston. It seems to me that it is almost impossible to find a male asexual. Does it seem that way to you also?

Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

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Hello Maria, I know for me it hasn't changed once I had sex and I did have sex a lot but never really liked it as someone else said I felt like I was being raped because I never really wanted it but when you get married that is what I was always told was my "job". If you feel the way you do about sex it isn't going to change just because you finally have sex. I feel that being asexual is something we are born with. Patricia

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Hi everyone,

I joined this group hoping to get some understanding of this. I am 28 years old. Since puberty, I have always just thought there was something wrong with me. I do have a sex drive, and quite a strong one, but absolutely no attraction for either sex. I can look at someone of either gender and acknowledge that they are good looking or sexy but once their clothes come off, I feel nothing. It's just a body. There's nothing special about it.

I've talked about this with friends before but no one had any idea that there was a name for it. I just happened to stumble on it today online. They always told me, "Once you have sex, that will change." It's kind of a relief to find out that I'm not the only one out there.

Maria petlady5@...

Yahoo! Groups Links

There was one, an American one. But I do not know if that still exists.. Further: male asexuals do exist. Search for 'AVEN' on thne net. Peter

Does anyone know of any ASexual dating sites?

There are numerous male asexuals in this group just so you know. I'm one of them. But I'm not interested in any kind of relationship beyond a friendship. I live alone and until they lock me up in the old folks home, I plan to continue living alone. I'm 45 right now.

Dennis.

Hi, Patricia. I am Mary. I am 55 and I live in Texas, specifically Houston. It seems to me that it is almost impossible to find a male asexual. Does it seem that way to you also?

Patricia Taylor said:

Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

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Hi Patricia,

I might as well be a newbie here. I signed up on this site a long time ago, but never became active. I hope to change that. I am 31, asexual, bi-affectional, and androgynous. I just came out of a wonderful 7 year relationship. I live in Northwest Arkansas.

I am looking to develop friends here. If you or anyone else is interested in talking with me about any subject (music, philosophy, art, literature, finding beauty, etc.), please feel free to e-mail me at elms72701@....

Peace, elizabeth

Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

I'm involved with AVEN (Asexuality and Visibility Network) at http://www.asexuality.org. Go to "Community" and look for a forum called "Meetup Mart". There you can find a lot of people interested both in developing friendships and dating relationships (both long- distance and local). -elizabeth

Does anyone know of any ASexual dating sites?

it is sad that we felt that is what we "had" to do and do it for so long, and for the other person to just go ahead even tho they can tell we are not really into it..i find it all sad....especially with people that are so not understanding

Tom Cruise Launches New Lawsuit Over Heterosexual Claims!

by Eileen Stephens

" The Last Samurai " star Tom Cruise has launched a new lawsuit regarding claims of heterosexuality. The lawsuit is launched specifically against Cruise's former lovers, including his former wife of nearly 10 years Nicole Kidman and his latest ex Penelope Cruz. " The Last Samurai " star Tom Cruise has launched a new lawsuit regarding claims of heterosexuality. The lawsuit is launched specifically against Cruise's former lovers, including his former wife of nearly 10 years Nicole Kidman and his latest ex Penelope Cruz.

" I've had enough of people prying into my private life," Cruise said in an official press release. "Just because I associate myself with women does not mean I have sex with them." Cruise is suing Kidman and Cruz for $10 million respectively and cites libel and slander. "The money is not an issue," he said. "It's the moral. If this is the only way to keep the tabloids out of my private life, then so be it."

Kidman, 37, is aghast at the lawsuit. "Jesus Christ, Tom!" she said in a heated discussion over the telephone. "We have kids together! You left your first wife for me! Of course the world knows we had sex!" Cruise is said to have retorted that, "Our children are adopted for a reason, Nicky!".

Alison Travis, a housewife in Blue Bell, PA, is worried over the lawsuit. "I've wanted Tom Cruise ever since seeing him in Top Gun. He's the number one man I fantasize about. Now I'm not sure if I can even do that anymore, for fear of him coming after me with a lawsuit. It would be a great way to meet him though," Travis pondered.

Miriam Barr, Cruise's lawyer, is uncertain why the star is launching the new lawsuit. "I understand why Mr. Cruise would be suing a homosexual porn star over their alleged trysts," Barr explains, referring to Cruise's last lawsuit with Chad Slater who claimed that among other things, Kidman had walked in on Cruise and himself in a "romantic encounter." "What I don't understand is why he's suing his ex-lovers for basically being with him. I know his last few movies didn't do so well at the box office, but he's a millionaire. The merchandising alone is enough to keep him afloat for the next ten years." Barr then confided, "I probably shouldn't even be making a statement. Who knows, I'll probably get sued just for being seen with the media."

Upon calling back several days later to speak with Barr, John Mason, partner for Barr's firm, informed, "Ms. Barr does not currently work with us, due to her comments on Mr. Cruise's lawsuit. As for Mr. Cruise's reasons for the lawsuit, Mr. Cruise has issued a public statement that he would like to make his sexuality known once and for all–asexual."

http://www.unconfirmedsources.com/index.php?itemid=819

Thanks. I have bookmarked them all. Hope I can find a group near me.

Sure, there's http://www.asexualove.net/

http://asexuality.meetup.com/ (may or may not lead to dating)

http://celibatepassions.com/groups/Asexual.html

http://www.asexualpals.com/

I've not used any of these sites myself, but there are places.

Batshua

On 2 Jan 2007, 22:59 +00:00, bbwbldgoddess said:

Does anyone know of any ASexual dating sites?

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Hey, Patricia - I just got an email from someone from the site with four addresses of asexual sites. I have bookmarked them all. When I get more time I will really look at them. Right now I am busy studying for an MBA in Management. I am in accelerated classes and it is a lot to learn in a short time.

It does seem that there are more asexual women than men. But that could just be that men are reluctant to admit that they are asexual. Maybe it is the whole macho thing. Although I did get a few emails from men about being proud to be asexual.

I just wish I had known about this years ago. All these years being told I was frigid, a prude, and that I hate men has been a nightmare. I knew I was none of these things but I did not know how else to explain the way I felt.

I am very interested in men but I do not want to get horizontal with them. I wish I could find someone like this to just hang out with and talk to. I am still married though so it probably will never happen. It would also help to find a group of asexual women to hang with.

thanks for replying to me. I appreciate it.

Honestly Mary I haven't been looking because it does seem that there aren't many men that feel the way we do. And I myself live in a very small town of about 2000 people so it is really hard to find anyone like me, that is why I was so happy to find the group. Patricia

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From

Mary Hancock

Date

01/08/08 19:39:31

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Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] hello from a newbie

Hi, Patricia. I am Mary. I am 55 and I live in Texas, specifically Houston. It seems to me that it is almost impossible to find a male asexual. Does it seem that way to you also?

Patricia Taylor <musiclover2.patricia@...> wrote: Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

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On the Dutch AVEN- site ( I am Dutch) we also discussed the question whether there are more women asexual than men. According to the people who react on our forum ( Dutch and Flemish people) it seems that: - as much men are asexual as there are women - men do not tend to express their feelings ( where do we know this from ) which might mean that men are not so much interested in expressing their emotions etc in a forum like AVEN, or in a yahoo group like this.. - asexuality is among men a big taboo. You really get shunned if you ( as man) talk about this, especially from other men. But as women as well. Men = huge sex drive, willing always. When you do not fit into that pattern.. well, you know... So I'd say that 'macho' is only a part of the explanation, it's a little more complicated.. But anyhow, you asked a good question that has raised more questions... Greetings, Peter

Hey, Patricia - I just got an email from someone from the site with four addresses of asexual sites. I have bookmarked them all. When I get more time I will really look at them. Right now I am busy studying for an MBA in Management. I am in accelerated classes and it is a lot to learn in a short time.

It does seem that there are more asexual women than men. But that could just be that men are reluctant to admit that they are asexual. Maybe it is the whole macho thing. Although I did get a few emails from men about being proud to be asexual.

I just wish I had known about this years ago. All these years being told I was frigid, a prude, and that I hate men has been a nightmare. I knew I was none of these things but I did not know how else to explain the way I felt.

I am very interested in men but I do not want to get horizontal with them. I wish I could find someone like this to just hang out with and talk to. I am still married though so it probably will never happen. It would also help to find a group of asexual women to hang with.

thanks for replying to me. I appreciate it.

Honestly Mary I haven't been looking because it does seem that there aren't many men that feel the way we do. And I myself live in a very small town of about 2000 people so it is really hard to find anyone like me, that is why I was so happy to find the group. Patricia

-------Original Message-------

From

Mary Hancock

Date

01/08/08 19:39:31

To

[email protected]

Subject

Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] hello from a newbie

Hi, Patricia. I am Mary. I am 55 and I live in Texas, specifically Houston. It seems to me that it is almost impossible to find a male asexual. Does it seem that way to you also?

Patricia Taylor <musiclover2.patricia@...> wrote: Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

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Thanks for mentioning the need for me to be discrete about my male asexuality. It seems to me that the problem is that people associate sex drive with masculinity. The two do not appear to be connected. I feel and act quite masculine and very aggressive yet rarely with low sex drive or not directed towards anyone. People seem to respect me when I show my aggressive side and then I often get the comment, 'oh, you are strong'. Being short doesn't seem to help at all.

It might be a separate subject off-topic for this group as far as the need of many men, including myself, for 'aggression release'.

Thanks for the Tom Cruise article. Top Gun is one of the very few movies I own. Now perhaps I understand why. Not physically attracted, just can relate somehow, 'birds of a feather flock together?'.

On the Dutch AVEN- site ( I am Dutch) we also discussed the question whether there are more women asexual than men. According to the people who react on our forum ( Dutch and Flemish people) it seems that: - as much men are asexual as there are women - men do not tend to express their feelings ( where do we know this from ) which might mean that men are not so much interested in expressing their emotions etc in a forum like AVEN, or in a yahoo group like this.. - asexuality is among men a big taboo. You really get shunned if you ( as man) talk about this, especially from other men. But as women as well. Men = huge sex drive, willing always. When you do not fit into that pattern.. well, you know... So I'd say that 'macho' is only a part of the explanation, it's a little more complicated.. But anyhow, you asked a good question that has raised more questions... Greetings, Peter

Mary Hancock said:

Hey, Patricia - I just got an email from someone from the site with four addresses of asexual sites. I have bookmarked them all. When I get more time I will really look at them. Right now I am busy studying for an MBA in Management. I am in accelerated classes and it is a lot to learn in a short time.

It does seem that there are more asexual women than men. But that could just be that men are reluctant to admit that they are asexual. Maybe it is the whole macho thing. Although I did get a few emails from men about being proud to be asexual.

I just wish I had known about this years ago. All these years being told I was frigid, a prude, and that I hate men has been a nightmare. I knew I was none of these things but I did not know how else to explain the way I felt.

I am very interested in men but I do not want to get horizontal with them. I wish I could find someone like this to just hang out with and talk to. I am still married though so it probably will never happen. It would also help to find a group of asexual women to hang with.

thanks for replying to me. I appreciate it.

Patricia Taylor said:

Honestly Mary I haven't been looking because it does seem that there aren't many men that feel the way we do. And I myself live in a very small town of about 2000 people so it is really hard to find anyone like me, that is why I was so happy to find the group. Patricia

-------Original Message-------

From

Mary Hancock

Date

01/08/08 19:39:31

To

[email protected]

Subject

Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] hello from a newbie

Hi, Patricia. I am Mary. I am 55 and I live in Texas, specifically Houston. It seems to me that it is almost impossible to find a male asexual. Does it seem that way to you also?

Patricia Taylor <musiclover2.patricia@...> wrote: Hello everyone and I am so glad I found this group. I have been looking for people that feel the same way I do but haven't had much luck. It is so nice to see that I am not the only one out here. Anyway my name is Patricia and I am 50 years old and live in the state of Missouri. Patricia

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If you're looking for personals sites, there's a new one out there you might want to try: http://www.strait-a.net/personals/index.php

Thanks. I have bookmarked them all. Hope I can find a group near me.

Batshua bat Yehonatan said:

Sure, there's http://www.asexualove.net/

http://asexuality.meetup.com/ (may or may not lead to dating)

http://celibatepassions.com/groups/Asexual.html

http://www.asexualpals.com/

I've not used any of these sites myself, but there are places.

Batshua

On 2 Jan 2007, 22:59 +00:00, bbwbldgoddess said:

Does anyone know of any ASexual dating sites?

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I do not think anyone needs to be discrete about their sexuality - whatever it may be. It is just that it seemed to me that more women than men were willing to let it be known that they are asexual. It also seems to me that most posts here are from women. I rarely get a post from a male. Most men I know would just shrivel up and die if they thought people took them for anything less than 100% heterosexual male. I am married but if I weren't I would love to find a nice asexual man to spend my life with. My hubby and I do not have sex anymore but we stay together for economic reasons. I would also love to locally find some asexual women to talk to. I personally am finding that being asexual can be very lonely at times. Maybe one day I will find a kindred spirit to talk to and be friends with. I am in Houston if anyone wants to meet for lunch or anything. :-)

Thanks for mentioning the need for me to be discrete about my male asexuality.

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Mary, I am curious why you want asexual women to run around with as friends. I have friends who I have never asked what their sexuality is and other friends I know who are gay, or str8. Friendships are formed around common interests rather than sexuality IMO.

I do not think anyone needs to be discrete about their sexuality - whatever it may be. It is just that it seemed to me that more women than men were willing to let it be known that they are asexual. It also seems to me that most posts here are from women. I rarely get a post from a male. Most men I know would just shrivel up and die if they thought people took them for anything less than 100% heterosexual male. I am married but if I weren't I would love to find a nice asexual man to spend my life with. My hubby and I do not have sex anymore but we stay together for economic reasons. I would also love to locally find some asexual women to talk to. I personally am finding that being asexual can be very lonely at times. Maybe one day I will find a kindred spirit to talk to and be friends with. I am in Houston if anyone wants to meet for lunch or anything. :-)

Thanks for mentioning the need for me to be discrete about my male asexuality.

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Hello Mary, Thank you for your reaction.. Some people might have understood my reaction wrong.. Greetings, Peter

I do not think anyone needs to be discrete about their sexuality - whatever it may be. It is just that it seemed to me that more women than men were willing to let it be known that they are asexual. It also seems to me that most posts here are from women. I rarely get a post from a male. Most men I know would just shrivel up and die if they thought people took them for anything less than 100% heterosexual male. I am married but if I weren't I would love to find a nice asexual man to spend my life with. My hubby and I do not have sex anymore but we stay together for economic reasons. I would also love to locally find some asexual women to talk to. I personally am finding that being asexual can be very lonely at times. Maybe one day I will find a kindred spirit to talk to and be friends with. I am in Houston if anyone wants to meet for lunch or anything. :-)

Thanks for mentioning the need for me to be discrete about my male asexuality.

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I have friends with interests common to mine but they do not understand me on this point. They just cannot conceive of anyone being disinterested in sex. I just want to meet some people who feel as I do about this one point. And if they happen to share some of my interests that is all for the better. That is all.

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No problem. :-)

Hello Mary, Thank you for your reaction.. Some people might have understood my reaction wrong.. Greetings, Peter

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Not sure if this is the home I am looking for but I thought I would test it out. I am a 35 year old mother of four, I have had periods of asexuality in my life but felt forced to maintain a sexual relationship because I had a partner. I became pregnant with my daughter in April 2005 and finally listened to my self and was honest with her father about how I felt about sex and for the first time in my life have been free from sex for almost three years. The feeling is tremendous and I feel better about myself than I ever have. I do not know much about asexuality but I know that my soul has been healed. I do feel like I have finally started the spiritual journey that I was meant to be on.

Good for you! And welcome. I have been married for a little over 30 years and I have tried to tell my hubby how it is with me. But he prefers to believe that I am using the asexuality as an excuse. He prefers to believe that I am frigid. go figure.

Like you I felt overwhelming relief when I learned about asexuality in Sociology class. Now I know there is nothing wrong with me. It is a huge weight off my shoulders and spirit.

Again . . . . . . . . welcome. :-)

Not sure if this is the home I am looking for but I thought I would test it out. I am a 35 year old mother of four, I have had periods of asexuality in my life but felt forced to maintain a sexual relationship because I had a partner. I became pregnant with my daughter in April 2005 and finally listened to my self and was honest with her father about how I felt about sex and for the first time in my life have been free from sex for almost three years. The feeling is tremendous and I feel better about myself than I ever have. I do not know much about asexuality but I know that my soul has been healed. I do feel like I have finally started the spiritual journey that I was meant to be on.

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Welcome to the group and I believe most of us at one time or another have felt like you do. There is nothing wrong with you and I know it was good for me to finally know that. Patricia

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Not sure if this is the home I am looking for but I thought I would test it out. I am a 35 year old mother of four, I have had periods of asexuality in my life but felt forced to maintain a sexual relationship because I had a partner. I became pregnant with my daughter in April 2005 and finally listened to my self and was honest with her father about how I felt about sex and for the first time in my life have been free from sex for almost three years. The feeling is tremendous and I feel better about myself than I ever have. I do not know much about asexuality but I know that my soul has been healed. I do feel like I have finally started the spiritual journey that I was meant to be on.

Yahoo! Groups Links

No, they're not. If you have a sex drive but no sexual attraction, then your sex drive directs you towards masturbation rather than intercourse.

Batshua

I don't understand how one can have a sex drive, but not to be attracted sexually. Aren't the two the same thing by definition?

On 3 Jan 2008, petlady5 said:

Hi everyone,

I joined this group hoping to get some understanding of this. I am 28 years old. Since puberty, I have always just thought there was something wrong with me. I do have a sex drive, and quite a strong one, but absolutely no attraction for either sex. I can look at someone of either gender and acknowledge that they are good looking or sexy but once their clothes come off, I feel nothing. It's just a body. There's nothing special about it.

I've talked about this with friends before but no one had any idea that there was a name for it. I just happened to stumble on it today online. They always told me, "Once you have sex, that will change." It's kind of a relief to find out that I'm not the only one out there.

Maria petlady5@...

Maria-

I definitely understand -- I experience the same thing and it is very had to explain. I am in Philadelphia.

I don't understand how one can have a sex drive, but not to be attracted sexually. Aren't the two the same thing by definition?

Hi everyone,

I joined this group hoping to get some understanding of this. I am 28 years old. Since puberty, I have always just thought there was something wrong with me. I do have a sex drive, and quite a strong one, but absolutely no attraction for either sex. I can look at someone of either gender and acknowledge that they are good looking or sexy but once their clothes come off, I feel nothing. It's just a body. There's nothing special about it.

I've talked about this with friends before but no one had any idea that there was a name for it. I just happened to stumble on it today online. They always told me, "Once you have sex, that will change." It's kind of a relief to find out that I'm not the only one out there.

Maria petlady5@...

No, like I can get turned on, but I never feel a desire to engage in sexual activity in response to being turned on. I actually don't masturbate personally; basically, being turned on is not "frustrating" or something I have to do something about. I get turned on, I'm turned on for a while, it goes away. My life is so exciting, lol.

~Sparky

I don't understand how one can have a sex drive, but not to be attracted sexually. Aren't the two the same thing by definition?