Haven for the Human Amoeba

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Asexual YouTube Video

This is a video where TheAllexz95 explains her thoughts on asexuality, and does her best not to get side-tracked, but sort of fails. Sorry about the terrible wind, she puts in subtitles where she felt they were needed.

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Welcome New Members

As your long lost moderator, I would like to welcome all the new members to our quiet group.  The group has not always been quiet, but with the moderator (me) absent for so long, other members lost interest, moved on, or became very inactive.

Today I went through the member ID's and deleted the members who email addresses have been bouncing since before the beginning of this year.  Yahoo does not really have a storage limit on email anymore, so there really should be no reason anyone's email addy should be bouncing, unless they deleted or disabled their email address.  If you take a look at the membership number you will see that the number of members has dropped by at least 100 members.  Don't worry, we still have over 500 members here in the group.

I would like to start posting again, especially links to stories I find on the internet that have to do with Asexuality.

Thanks to all the long time members who have stuck around through the quiet years.  This is a moderated group, so if you have not posted before, your message will not post immediately to the group but will have to wait for moderator approval.  Because of the nature of this group, moderation is necessary since there are still so many Spam Lords trolling yahoo groups, posting inappropriate sexual content and links everywhere they possibly can.

I look forward to livening the group up with current asexual events, topics and conversation.

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Asexuality: A Brief Introduction

Asexuality: A Brief Introduction  Sometimes called “A Fourth Orientation”, asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a persistent lack of sexual attraction toward any gender. This book explores love, sex, and life, from the asexual point of view.

This book is for anyone, regardless of orientation. Whether you’re asexual, think you might be, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about what asexuality is (and isn’t), there’s something inside for you.

This is one of the first books exclusively dedicated to the subject of asexuality as a sexual orientation. Written by an asexual, it discusses the topic from the inside. Show more Show less

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Understanding Asexuality

Understanding Asexuality  (This book is for sale on Amazon)  Asexuality can be defined as an enduring lack of sexual attraction. Thus, asexual individuals do not find (and perhaps never have) others sexually appealing. Some consider “asexuality” as a fourth category of sexual orientation, distinct from heterosexuality, homosexuality, or bisexuality. However, there is also recent evidence that the label “asexual” may be used in a broader way than merely as “a lack of sexual attraction.” People who say they have sexual attraction to others, but indicate little or no desire for sexual activity are also self-identifying as asexual. Distinct from celibacy, which refers to sexual abstinence by choice where sexual attraction and desire may still be present, asexuality is experienced by those having a lack or sexual attraction or a lack of sexual desire.

More and more, those who identify as asexual are “coming out,” joining up, and forging a common identity. The time is right for a better understanding of this sexual orientation, written by an expert in the field who has conducted studies on asexuality and who has provided important contributions to understanding asexuality. This timely resource will be one of the first books written on the topic for general readers, and the first to look at the historical, biological, and social aspects of asexuality. It includes first-hand accounts throughout from people who identify as asexual. The study of asexuality, as it contrasts so clearly with sexuality, also holds up a lens and reveals clues to the mystery of sexuality. Show more Show less

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(A)Sexual

(A)Sexual  (Not Rated)

Facing a sex obsessed culture, a mountain of stereotypes and misconceptions, and a lack of social or scientific research, asexuals - people who experience no sexual attraction - struggle to claim their identity. A FilmBuff presentation. * Directed by: Angela Tucker * Runtime: 1 hour 16 minutes * Release year: 2012 * Studio: FilmBuff

Available in HD for playback on Kindle Fire HD, Xbox 360, PS3, Roku, TiVO or other Amazon Instant Video HD compatible devices

Click on the link below to access this short film about asexuality

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Re: Welcome New Members

I'm pleased to hear of your return to active duty ;-)

I certainly hope others feel the same and will start posting with renewed hope of building friendships with other ACEs. For my part I live in near total isolation and would be grateful for thoughtful conversation on topics of common interests. My background is in community service and development with education in Environmental Psychology. I write science fiction/historical fiction drawn from an elaborate and detailed back story. One of the elements of this current series of short stories (prequel) and a pending novel is about a network of experimental enclaves, intentional communities. The response from my small team of slush readers has been beyond anything I would have imagined. With a group request that I divide my time between story writing and the research and documentation of a 'real' network of communities based upon the novel's concept. I can't post about my fictional pursuites but I will comment on the development of the master plan for the real network of communities.

Well I hope to be hearing from some of you soon.

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My Information

1. Name/age: Dennis, 43

2. Gender: Male

3. Race: Caucasian

4. Geographic Location: Tuscaloosa, AL, USA

5. Have you ever had sex? Yes

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I am hetero-romantic and pan-demi-romantic.

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? I don't hide it, but I don't declare it either.

8. Are you married? And if not, do you ever want to get married? Do you crave non-sexual romance? I was married, but have since I got a divorce. I do want the closeness of a relationship, but I do not want the legal complications of marriage. I am currently seeing two women: my ex-wife and my girlfriend.

9. Do you have or want children? I had a child. My parents adopted him.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes. But I also need to be alone sometimes.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? Not really. I have always been like this, so it doesn't bother me.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? Do you like to kiss? I do date, I do love kissing and hugging. I also, under certain situations, like sex. (I have a semi-active libido. My asexuality is not being sexually attracted to people.)

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? No.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? After I kept finding out my testosterone wasn't causing my lack of sexual interest, I started looking into other causes. I found asexuality and realized it described me.

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Re: Welcome New Members

Parent Comment

As your long lost moderator, I would like to welcome all the new members to our quiet group.  The group has not always been quiet, but with the moderator (me) absent for so long, other members lost interest, moved on, or became very inactive.

Today I went through the member ID's and deleted the members who email addresses have been bouncing since before the beginning of this year.  Yahoo does not really have a storage limit on email anymore, so there really should be no reason anyone's email addy should be bouncing, unless they deleted or disabled their email address.  If you take a look at the membership number you will see that the number of members has dropped by at least 100 members.  Don't worry, we still have over 500 members here in the group.

I would like to start posting again, especially links to stories I find on the internet that have to do with Asexuality.

Thanks to all the long time members who have stuck around through the quiet years.  This is a moderated group, so if you have not posted before, your message will not post immediately to the group but will have to wait for moderator approval.  Because of the nature of this group, moderation is necessary since there are still so many Spam Lords trolling yahoo groups, posting inappropriate sexual content and links everywhere they possibly can.

I look forward to livening the group up with current asexual events, topics and conversation.

Contemplative One said:

As your long lost moderator, I would like to welcome all the new members to our quiet group.  The group has not always been quiet, but with the moderator (me) absent for so long, other members lost interest, moved on, or became very inactive.

Today I went through the member ID's and deleted the members who email addresses have been bouncing since before the beginning of this year.  Yahoo does not really have a storage limit on email anymore, so there really should be no reason anyone's email addy should be bouncing, unless they deleted or disabled their email address.  If you take a look at the membership number you will see that the number of members has dropped by at least 100 members.  Don't worry, we still have over 500 members here in the group.

I would like to start posting again, especially links to stories I find on the internet that have to do with Asexuality.

Thanks to all the long time members who have stuck around through the quiet years.  This is a moderated group, so if you have not posted before, your message will not post immediately to the group but will have to wait for moderator approval.  Because of the nature of this group, moderation is necessary since there are still so many Spam Lords trolling yahoo groups, posting inappropriate sexual content and links everywhere they possibly can.

I look forward to livening the group up with current asexual events, topics and conversation.

Staci

I'm glad to see some activity in this group and I hadn't realized that you'd been absent for some time. Welcome back! I joined several months back and since I never received any kind of posts,I figured it was a dead group and contemplated dropping it off my list. Now,I'm so glad I didn't. I'm looking forward to meeting new people and, hopefully,sharing some common interests.

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Member Info Questionaire

Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

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Hello

I was wondering what was going with the group, glad to hear from you.

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Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] Re: Welcome New Members

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I'm pleased to hear of your return to active duty ;-)

I certainly hope others feel the same and will start posting with renewed hope of building friendships with other ACEs. For my part I live in near total isolation and would be grateful for thoughtful conversation on topics of common interests. My background is in community service and development with education in Environmental Psychology. I write science fiction/historical fiction drawn from an elaborate and detailed back story. One of the elements of this current series of short stories (prequel) and a pending novel is about a network of experimental enclaves, intentional communities. The response from my small team of slush readers has been beyond anything I would have imagined. With a group request that I divide my time between story writing and the research and documentation of a 'real' network of communities based upon the novel's concept. I can't post about my fictional pursuites but I will comment on the development of the master plan for the real network of communities.

Well I hope to be hearing from some of you soon.

Auriel,

Thanks for the wonderful words of 'welcome back to the group'.  Your bio sounds exciting and very interesting, would love to read more about this in the future as new developments arise.  I also hope to hear from other group members soon.

Staci


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Friday, May 17, 2013 11:16 AM
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[Haven for the Human Amoeba] Re: Welcome New Members

I'm pleased to hear of your return to active duty ;-) I certainly hope others feel the same and will start posting with renewed hope of building friendships with other ACEs.  For my part I live in near total isolation and would be grateful for thoughtful conversation on topics of common interests. My background is in community service and development with education in Environmental Psychology.  I write science fiction/historical fiction drawn from an elaborate and detailed back story. One of the elements of this current series of short stories (prequel) and a pending novel is about a network of experimental enclaves, intentional communities. The response from my small team of slush readers has been beyond anything I would have imagined. With a group request that I divide my time between story writing and the research and documentation of a 'real' network of communities based upon the novel's concept. I can't post about my fictional pursuites but I will comment on the development of the master plan for the real network of communities. Well I hope to be hearing from some of you soon.

Peace

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Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] My Information

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1. Name/age: Dennis, 43

2. Gender: Male

3. Race: Caucasian

4. Geographic Location: Tuscaloosa, AL, USA

5. Have you ever had sex? Yes

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I am hetero-romantic and pan-demi-romantic.

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? I don't hide it, but I don't declare it either.

8. Are you married? And if not, do you ever want to get married? Do you crave non-sexual romance? I was married, but have since I got a divorce. I do want the closeness of a relationship, but I do not want the legal complications of marriage. I am currently seeing two women: my ex-wife and my girlfriend.

9. Do you have or want children? I had a child. My parents adopted him.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes. But I also need to be alone sometimes.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? Not really. I have always been like this, so it doesn't bother me.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? Do you like to kiss? I do date, I do love kissing and hugging. I also, under certain situations, like sex. (I have a semi-active libido. My asexuality is not being sexually attracted to people.)

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? No.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? After I kept finding out my testosterone wasn't causing my lack of sexual interest, I started looking into other causes. I found asexuality and realized it described me.

DirCat,

Thanks for taking the time to fill out the group questionnaire.  This helps other members in the group get to know you better and can help to form friendships that could become lifelong.

Staci


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[Haven for the Human Amoeba] My Information

1. Name/age: Dennis, 43

2. Gender: Male

3. Race: Caucasian

4. Geographic Location: Tuscaloosa, AL, USA

5. Have you ever had sex? Yes

6. What gender, if any, are you attracted to? I am hetero-romantic and pan-demi-romantic.

7. Are you open about your non-sexuality? I don't hide it, but I don't declare it either.

8. Are you married? And if not, do you ever want to get married? Do you crave non-sexual romance? I was married, but have since I got a divorce. I do want the closeness of a relationship, but I do not want the legal complications of marriage. I am currently seeing two women: my ex-wife and my girlfriend.

9. Do you have or want children? I had a child. My parents adopted him.

10. Do you like ANY human contact? Yes. But I also need to be alone sometimes.

11. Are you bothered by your asexuality? Not really. I have always been like this, so it doesn't bother me.

12. Do you date or desire companionship? Do you like to kiss? I do date, I do love kissing and hugging. I also, under certain situations, like sex. (I have a semi-active libido. My asexuality is not being sexually attracted to people.)

13. Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes.

14. Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? No.

15. When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? After I kept finding out my testosterone wasn't causing my lack of sexual interest, I started looking into other causes. I found asexuality and realized it described me.

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Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] Member Info Questionaire

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Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

Thanks for taking time to fill out the group questionnaire.  I am also 50 years of age, and I live in Arizona.

Staci


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Saturday, May 18, 2013 12:52 PM
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[Haven for the Human Amoeba] Member Info Questionaire

Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

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Wikipedia

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Re: [Haven for the Human Amoeba] Member Info Questionaire

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Thanks for taking time to fill out the group questionnaire.  I am also 50 years of age, and I live in Arizona.

Staci


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[Haven for the Human Amoeba] Member Info Questionaire

Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

Ahh,Arizona.  Nice to meet you.:)  It's starting to heat up there quite a bit now isn't it?  Here in Albany, the seasons are struggling to change over so lots of rain and cloudy days with temps in the 70s.  I'm sure everyone here on the list is already familiar with AVEN but if not, check out www.AVEN.com.  It's a site with forums and a chat room for asexuals. Tons of information up that way and a lot of interesting conversation as well.


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Thanks for taking time to fill out the group questionnaire.  I am also 50 years of age, and I live in Arizona.

Staci

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Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

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Asexual Bloggers Wanted

Become a contributor to The Asexual Agenda Posted on May 17, 2013 by Siggy It’s that time again!  The Asexual Agenda is looking for new bloggers.

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Asexual Ugliness

Asexual Ugliness Posted on May 18, 2013 by Barnacle Strumpet Let’s talk a little about being ugly. We’ll throw fat in too, since what I am particularly wanting to address is the “You’re just asexual because you’re ugly” idea, and with it the “you just can’t get anyone because you’re ugly.” idea as well. We’re including fat because, hey, come on, with the way people are? I’m sure some of us have heard the “You’re just asexual because you’re fat and can’t get anyone.” version.

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The Asexual Agenda Blog

The asexual community is a terrible place to hide from your sexuality Posted on May 19, 2013       by Queenieofaces            A while back there was this big kerfuffle on tumblr* about how aces are secretly harmful to LGB folks.  One of the main arguments was that LGB folks have internalized heterosexism, and thus use the asexual community to hide from their sexuality.  Now, I’m not really interested in getting into the whole “are aces harmful to LGB folks” debate, because that thing is a can of worms–a can of flesh-eating, fire-breathing, radioactive worms, that is.  But the idea of hiding from one’s sexuality in the ace community had me raising my eyebrows so far that they were practically flying off my face, and all I could think was, Have you ever spent any time in the ace community?  If I wanted to hide from my sexuality, the asexual community is the last place I’d go.  Here’s why:

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Asexuality SexInfo Online

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Asexuality

The term “asexual” describes individuals who either do not experience sexual attraction or have no desire to act on that sexual attraction. It is a broad term, however, and many people who identify with the term have varying sexualities. Some asexuals may not experience any sexual arousal at all; others might experience arousal but not receive any pleasure from it. Some may not experience any romantic attraction either, while other asexuals may be interested in finding and settling down with a partner.

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Dear Abby

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Asexuality - YouTube

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Asexuality And Purity Teachings Can Be A Toxic Mix

Asexuality And Purity Teachings Can Be A Toxic Mix: Christine

HA note: The author’s name has been changed to ensure anonymity. “Christine” is a pseudonym.

I am an asexual. This means that I feel the same amount of sexual attraction for men that a straight man does, and the same amount of sexual attraction to women that a straight woman does. I remember that the conservative community denied the existence of asexuality, but I can’t remember the exact reason. I think it was something along the lines of ‘they’re just celibate’ or ‘they’re just abstinent’. However, many celibate or abstinent people feel sexual attraction, and many asexuals are not celibate or abstinent. To learn more about what asexuality is and is not, this is a great informative video:

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File - Am I Asexual?

Am I Asexual?

There are differences among people who identify as asexual, chiefly among them the presence or absence of a sex drive or romantic attraction. Some experience only one of these, while others experience both, and still others neither. There is disagreement as to which of these configurations can genuinely be described as asexual. While a number of people believe all four variations qualify, many others believe that to be asexual, one must lack a sex drive, romantic attraction, or both.

The sex drive of those asexuals who have one is usually not directed at anything, and is only an urge for sexual stimulation or release; the exception is those asexuals who are also fetishists, whose sex drive is focused on the fetish object rather than a person (many fetishists have no desire for other people, but don't necessarily identify as asexual although they technically are). In either case, the level of sex drive can range from weak to strong, and from rare to frequent. Some asexuals experience sexual feelings but have no desire to act on them, while others seek sexual release through sexual contact.

Some asexuals use a classification system developed (and then retired) by the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, one of the major online asexual communities (abbreviated as AVEN). In this system, asexuals are divided into types A through D: a Type A asexual has a sex drive but no romantic attraction, a Type B has romantic attraction but no sex drive, a Type C has both, and a Type D neither. The categories are not meant to be entirely discrete or set in stone; one's type can change, or one can be on the border between two types. Note that AVEN itself no longer uses this system, on the basis that it is too exclusive, but a number of asexuals still feel it is a useful tool for explaining their orientation.

Note that asexuality is not the same as celibacy, which is the deliberate abstention from sexual activity; many asexuals do have sex, and most celibates are not asexual.

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Name/Age: Rebecca(people call me Tyler though) 50 years old

Gender- Female

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Albany,New York

Have you ever had sex?- Bunches and bunches

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- Either. I'm more attracted to personality, intelligence, and sense of humor

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- Yup

Are you married?: Not...really. I've had a domestic partner for the past 14 years but since I told her I was asexual, she doesn't quite have the time for me anymore. Am I bitter? Yes and no. Bitter in that the act of physical sex is such a defining factor of a total relationship to her. And..not bitter in that I know who I am and what I want from life and the 14 years have been an invaluable learning experience.

And if not, do you ever want to get married?: I would love to be because the sense of belonging you attribute to a person you love is unmatched. Will it ever happen? Probably not.

Do you crave non-sexual romance?

I think so. I've never had it.

Do you have or want children? I don't have any children and since my partner was very anti-child, I've never considered it. I don't know.

Do you like ANY human contact? I do as long as it isn't foreplay to sex.

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes. And no. I have a great sense of relief in knowing there are other people like myself and that I'm not "abnormal". And yes,because I wish at times that I could go with the overall flow of society. And not be such an oddity.

Do you date or desire companionship? It's something I've considered. At this point, it would be nice just to have someone to talk to and share some common interests with. I love books and writing. I love to talk about different writers and movies. I'm a Psych major at NEU and I love discussing the different facets of peoples' lives and "why we do what we do." I hope to explore eco-psychology when I graduate. That's the belief that our separation from the earth is a contributing factor in our stress and anxiety levels. I have 4 Australian cattle dogs I love to hike and run with so I love talking about dogs. I just moved to Albany, with my partner, from the Mojave desert where I used to hike in Death Valley. I have other interests, just odds and ends. Too many to list,lol.

Do you like to kiss- I'm...not sure. I guess so,as long as it isn't something that's just foreplay to having sex.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? No,I haven't ruled it "in" or "out." I, quite simply,don't care that much about having sex and I don't care if that were to change or not. Psychologically I don't think it ever would because I'm a bit turned off by people who regard sex as such a necessary component in everything they think,say,or do.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? It's possible.

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? I've always known I was different. But I figured there had to be some way I could be "normal." I figured if I had sex often enough,I'd just learn to like it. That never happened. So, my whole life, I've always felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Discovering I was asexual...and so were other people...was a huge relief.

Name/Age:William 34

Gender- Male

Race- Caucasian

Geographic Location: Japan

Have you ever had sex?- Virgin until 22, Sexless marriage since 26

What gender, if any, are you attracted to?- female

Are you open about your non-sexuality?- more or less

Are you married?: Yes

And if not, do you ever want to get married?:

Do you crave non-sexual romance? Romance yes

Do you have or want children? a son

Do you like ANY human contact? yes

Are you bothered by your asexuality? Yes, I have the feeling it is not natural.

Do you date or desire companionship? My wife is more like my sister I think. It would be nice to have someone with more similar interests

Do you like to kiss- It is nice.

Have you ruled out possible medical/psychological reasons for your disinterest in sex? Yes, had both of my testicles removed due to a medical condition. My testosterone replacement is kept at a low dose.

Were you sexually molested as a child either by adults or other children? No

When did you first start to realize that you were different from other people in terms of your sexuality? Teenage years. I knew from my late teens that I would likely loose one or both testicles in the future. Even knowing that fact I was not overly encouraged to have sexual relationships. I could make friends with women but was not overly interested in having physical relationships with them.

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The Asexual Agenda

It Turns Out Asexual People Have Problems, Too

Posted on May 23, 2013 by Sciatrix

"I wish I was asexual, too!  My love life sucks right now.  Things must be so much easier for you!"